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me and my other have been together for half a year...

2006-11-09 06:31:06 · 38 answers · asked by andheartssemicolon 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Give it more time. In my experiance (almost 22 now), relationships when you're 18 don't last as long as they seem to. I'm not saying that it won't work out but, life once you leave home is difficult. Its a lot of time spent working and spent apart from your other. I'd say wait another year or so and make sure the relationship is solid enough to withstand it. The last thing you want is to move in together then break up and have to find somewhere else to live or someone else to help make rent.

2006-11-09 06:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 0 0

I would say that 18 is ok to move out but I dont think at 6 months together is long enough to make such a commitment .An 18 year old man is to immature to settle down Whilst females mature earlier than males so for you it would be ok but for him he will want a lot of freedom maybe leaving you pregnant and alone .I would give it at least 6 months more but from experience I would rather you wait until he is 21 at least .If he really loves you he will wait if he doesnt better to find out now than after a full on relationship begins .You can get hurt very easily by such a young man .Of course the choice is yours just think about what I have said Good luck have a nice day.

2006-11-09 06:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Legally, 18 is the age at which you are considered an adult for many things. You are the only one who can really make this decision, and the fact that you're asking for advice makes me think perhaps you're not ready. Living on your own requires a great deal of maturity. Do you and your s.o. both have jobs? If not, I sincerely doubt you can swing it on one income. Even if you're both working, is it enough to cover rent, utilities, food, clothing, transportation (plus insurance if you own a vehicle), medical expenses and/or insurance, and still have enough left over so you can save and enjoy some entertainment? If you think you can squeak by and just live frugally, you're heading for trouble. Money is the number one reason couples argue and break up, and it's the lack of money, not a surplus!

That said, six months is not enough time to know if you're really compatible to live with someone. Usually. There are exceptions. So, if you really, really think you can do this, don't burn any bridges. I assume you're living with family; discuss the situation with them first. Let them know you want to try spreading your wings, but don't alienate them. That way, if it doesn't work out, you can go back home.

2006-11-09 06:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by fyrfly 3 · 0 0

I moved out at 18. I was single but I had a roommate and we did just fine. I seriously do not think it as easy today to pay the bills as an 18 year old. You need to be both making a living and minimum wage jobs won't cut it. You will wind up fighting over money. I don't know your situation but if things are bad at home then move out but it will be a hard road.

2006-11-09 06:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Great idea. However I have seen this many times and you should think about some things: what is your income? Can you pay rent, utilities, car insurance, etc? Can you afford to live on your own? Put together a budget to make sure you can actually pay for all your expenses. 18-yr-olds often don't realize all the expenses cuz they've been living with their parents. Be sure to include food, internet provider, cable tv, phone, clothes, gasoline, toilet paper, shampoo and everything you will need. Then if you can afford it, go ahead. Living on your own means usually you both have to work and makes it hard to go to school to become qualified to earn more per hour thus increase your standard of living (like a better apartment).

2006-11-09 06:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1 0

Ok, I won't give ya my life story, but just before I turned 21, I met my now husband. We were kinda seeing each other. He lied and told me he was 19. Age difference was kinda an issue for me, but I gave it a shot anyway. Found out that he had Just turned 18 a few months prior, but was well on my way to falling in love with him so I didn't care. About a week after my b-day, we moved in together. My family gave me such hell over it, but I didn't care. We've been together 3 years now...were married in June. Life is great. so I would say no, and that you should go for it.

2006-11-09 06:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No your not too young to move in with your other half. It's normal, a lot of couples your age are like that. All I need to say is that do what makes you happy.

2006-11-09 06:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by kauaigurl4u 1 · 0 0

It depends on the individuals themselves.
If there is enough love to go around,you will manage even the worst of times.
Spoken about the finances that is.
Are you both adult enough to see that everything costs money. and bills keep pouring in.
As you can balance a checkbook,you will be fine,but money problems cause even the closets couples to break up.
So,if you both are adult enough?
No 18 years old does not mean that you are dumb at all.And being 50 does not mean you are smarter too.
Again:it depends totally on yourselves and seeing your info:so far so good.
Here white flowers for the two of you.
That is to say:for today.
I might change my "avatar" into a different one tomorrow.
Rob.xxx

2006-11-09 06:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yeah, because you will hate each other in 6 months. Just date for now and enjoy. It may even last for a long time. But you are dooming it to end early if you move in together so quickly and so young.

2006-11-09 06:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You should not move out "together", but separately. You need a chance to finish your post-secondary education, go out on your own to live and see what reality is like, paying rent and bills. You will grow as an individual. Then, if the love holds, plan to marry.

2006-11-09 06:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3 0

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