I got married about a month ago and paid our baker a month and a half ago. I had to get the payment to her the week before the wedding. I sent it off and never heard from her, I spoke with her on the Wednesday before our wedding and she told me she had received payment!!
So now it's been a little over six weeks since I sent the payment in and four and a half weeks since our wedding. Yesterday my check had been returned in the mail, I checked my account and it obviously had never been cashed!! She hasn't called and I really don't know what to do!!
I know this might sound bad, but our cake was only about $250 and I had already paid her 1/3rd of the cost as a deposit! I know that is probably all it cost to make the cake, the rest was probably her profit.
My question is do I resend her payment? or just wait and see if she ever realizes her mistake and calls? I can't help but feel bad if I keep it, but at the same time, it was her mistake for being careless with her buisness.
2006-11-09 06:30:10 · 15 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When you asked if she had received payment, and she said yes, she might have been thinking of the deposit. She could be sitting there waiting for you to pay her, not knowing it got lost in the mail. I'd call her before resending it to make sure the address was right.
2006-11-09 06:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You owe her the money. You bought the cake, you got the cake and you ate the cake. Not paying her is dishonest, period. Also, if she realizes her error down the road, she could turn you over to a collection agency or take you to small claims court - neither of which will look good on your record. Do the honest thing and send her the check.
2006-11-09 06:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Colleen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would contact her and ask her to double check her records to confirm that whe received your payment. (You don't have to tell her why) If she says YES then keep it..her fault. Atleast you tried.
BUT...perhaps she was extremely busy with many weddings when you asked her if she recieved your payment and is now too embarrassed to ask you about it since she knows she told you paid.
Keeping the money without atleast asking for a confirmation of payment isn't stealing persay, but I would feel guilty as all heck about it.
Just my 2 cents
2006-11-09 10:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call her and explain the situation. say you want to make sure she was getting short-changed. a deposit is just that a deposit. it doesn't represent how much the cake cost and the rest as profit.
do the right thing and call
2006-11-10 04:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The honest thing to do would be to call her and let her know. It may have been a mix up on her accountants part for all we know:) Call her, find out what she says. If you don't, she could legally come after you later on for the money, and "Well, it was her mistake" won't hold up in court.
2006-11-09 11:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got the cake?
You might want to check with your bank. The money may have been withdrawn from your account, sort of like an e-check.
This is a tough moral issue. One you have to decide you can live with.
2006-11-09 06:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pay her! If you have any morals at all or for that matter a heart you would pay her. She has to support herself and her family the same way you do, so when you say profit you mean her paycheck! Send it back!
2006-11-09 07:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tamra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call her and see what she says to do. You may think she'd say to send it, but if she honestly thinks she got the whole payment then she might not want you to resend it. if she had been refering to the downpayment then you don't feel like a skeeze for not sending it.
2006-11-09 06:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by soccerbabe_angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Meg! Keep the money! At least until she calls you and says she never received the payment. You paid the deposit which is plenty to pay for the cake, i'm sure.... Consider yourself lucky!
2006-11-09 06:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Be a good person. Pay her. Was it a good cake? Set a good example and remember this is her business, she doesn't work for free.
2006-11-09 08:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋