My friend is getting married and it will be her second time. (second for the man as well but not to each other) Her first marriage ended after her husband cheated and left her. Some people have criticized her plans. (a fancy dress, lots of guests, photographer, held at a fancy hotel) She feels she was cheated the first time because she was pushed into the marriage and then he left her. (she was expecting a baby and very young the first time) They are very kind and generous people who will host a wonderful reception. Should others complain just because it isn't her first wedding?
2006-11-09 06:22:32 · 17 answers · asked by artimis 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
HELL NO. I really hate when people go all, "thats tacky" on ya. Jesus, she's happy, it's her wedding, and she is in love! Tell her that anybody who criticizes her, she should tell them not to come to the wedding.
It is her happiness that is important! Tell her congratulations on her happiness!
2006-11-09 06:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If they could afford it then why not? I personally would do something small and go on a VERY nice honeymoon instead or use that money for something more important. Not that a wedding is not important, but at the end of the day, there are always going to be people who are going to criticize and talk bad about the wedding and reception. Again, if they have the money to do a big and elaborate wedding, then so be it. It's their day and they should enjoy it the way they want too without anyone having to put their two cents in.
2006-11-09 14:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend's wedding sounds beautiful, and how exciting to find love for a second time. People often say second weddings are "tacky" when the bride and groom register for the same types of outrageously priced gifts that they would have registered for at their first weddings (ex: $100 toasters).
As long as your friend isn't re-registering for china, coffee pots, and towels (like young couples do), then she is just fine to have her day, again! If they are registering, perhaps asking for a honeymoon or setting up a college fund for their children might be more appropriate and will settle down the complaining guest -- who should no longer be on the wedding guest list.
2006-11-09 14:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No - people should not complain. She is in love, starting a new life with a new husband - how is that any less important then it would be if it was the first time. While I could understand people's complaints if she was a serial bride or something - but a second big wedding is actually not that uncommon any more.
2006-11-09 19:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that second weddings, regardless of the first wedding's circumstances, should not be as big as the first, especially if both the man and women have been married previously. But, if the 2 of them want a big fancy wedding, let them have it. It's their money, it's their wedding, the opinions of others don't matter.
2006-11-09 14:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by wolfgirl1987 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the second wedding should be as big as the first unless the first was really Small
i knew someone that got married for a second time and they only had like 50 people invited to there wedding and it was in there backyard
really it is just up to u but if it was me i wouldn't have as big a wedding as the first one
2006-11-09 16:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by TJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she should be criticized for having a nice wedding. The size of the wedding should be decided on by the two people getting married not the relatives and friends of the couple.
2006-11-09 14:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should do what she wants to do, and if that's a big wedding then so be it. People are coming to share their special day & if they are critising them for what they are doing, they are not realising the real reason behind the wedding. If it was my second marriage, I would do what I wanted, not what other people say.
Just because it's a 2nd marriage, it doesn't make it any less special
2006-11-09 14:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can have whatever kind of wedding she wants the first, second, third time. If folks don't like the idea, they don't have to go. But people have a right to complain, also, if they think it's inappropriate because of cultural norms and mores. So just let everyone have their way...
2006-11-09 14:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can have as big of a wedding as she wants - as many times as she wants. True, people may not give as many or any gifts, but it doesn't sound like she's in it for the gifts. People just need to realize it's her wedding and it's not putting them out any so they can just get over it.
2006-11-09 14:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think it's EXTREMELY TACKY. I hate large second wedding, if I was forced to go to the FIRST one. I feel that I should have to go to another shower and get another gift.. and all that bullshit. And she was cheated?? GROW up you don't NEED a wedding. Your friend sounds like a spoiled brat..... she was cheated... that's digusting.
HER CHILD COULD USE THAT MONEY FOR COLLEGE. Instead of having a tacky party.
2006-11-09 14:41:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋