I am 12 and went shopping wit my mom and my brother and sister and they were pickin on me so kinda was in bad mood. My mom kept telling me stuff an like naggin me we used get along good but now shes like always mad at me so i started yellin back at her and even tell her 2 shut up and leve me alone. She said i was rilly being rude and yell at me in the store. When i got home she gave me a rilly bad spanking and i had to write about what i did wrong and i was still mad at her cos she didnt lissen to my side!! Was that fair or is she just bein mean???!!
2006-11-09 06:10:12 · 14 answers · asked by Tia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well i have a 12 years old daughter and if she ever played up like you did in the store she wold never go out of the house with me again let alone shopping. grow up you want to be a teenager then act like one and i think you mom did ok to make you write about it as for the spanking i think you are a tad old for that you should know better
2006-11-09 06:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Being a pre-teen is is hard and so is being a parent of a pre-teen.You say that you used to get along so my guess is that youre making descions your mom may not approve of.Believe it or not, most moms want nothing but the best for there daughters and she may be worried that youre headed down a dark road. Sit down with your mom when youre both calm and just talk. It doesnt have to be a serios talk, just let her in to your "new" life. It will keep the lines of communication open and she'll trust your descions if she know that your head is still in the right place.
2006-11-09 06:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by no expert but... 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey, i totally understand what you´re talking about! yeah, my mom(when i lived with her)used to always nag at me about things that didn´t even have anything to do with me and as i grew older I even started telling her to shut up...now, yeah, it´s bad to do that, but on the other hand, it shows her that u seriously are feeling hurt by her actions. She is probably just really stressed out and is using you as a target for her anger...i am sure she loves you, but is just overwhelmed...is she a single mom? does the dad help out? how much work does she have to do besides taking care of you AND ur two siblings? listen, just make sure that u do well in school and don´t become a juvenial delinquient...and by the time u´re 17 or 18 u´ll be in college and out on ur own...don´t worry, maybe try and help her out more and talk to her without yelling about how you feel. good luck:)
ps:there is always the option of boarding school or being an exchange student(which there are full paid scholarships for too!)
2006-11-09 08:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-17 07:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, this sounds pretty serious to me. Have you talked to your mom about this? What kind of things was she saying to you while picking on you? Try talking to your mom and telling her how you feel and that she is hurting your feelings. If she won't listen to you and then she spanks you for trying to talk to her, talk to a trusted teacher or counselor at school.
2006-11-09 06:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I really would have read your question faster if half the words were not spelled wrong.
At 12, you have no right to say "shut Up" to your mother. You showed no respect. It's OK to be mad but do it with your mouth shut.
2006-11-09 06:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, being disrespectful to authority is no excuse regardless of the situation. Secondly, screaming and telling someone to shut up closes the lines of communications. Calmness and discussing it is the what is effective.
2006-11-09 06:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wrong for yelling at her and being rude? yes.
wrong for being angry with her? no.
did you write about it yet? if and when you do, if you haven't already; be sure and put in there, the why part.
tell her what set you off, and why, and how you would like it be fixed.
and in the future, remember to keep it respectful.
2006-11-09 06:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont tell your mom to shut up that is the worse thing to say to her. just talk to your mom and say you are sorry . then say i dont like when my sister and brother pick on me. just have a good talk.
2006-11-09 06:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by mama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is almost 12, and If she ever told me to shut up, it would be a dark day in her life.
2006-11-09 06:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋