I'm lost on what to do. My family doesn't like him but I love him very much, we have been dating alittle over a year and it hurts whenever he asks why they don't like him and I don't know what to say to him. I have asked them but no one can give me an answer they just say he is an asshole, then I asked "why is he an asshole?" and all they say is "he just is".
Its driving me insane as well as making my boyfriend feel bad, what can I do?
2006-11-09 06:04:07 · 20 answers · asked by Just me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are under 18, you need to think about what they are saying--even you are older, then tell them to shut up.
2006-11-09 06:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your family but I have found over the years that sometimes parents really do know best but here is a way to test that. If you have a daughter, would this be the kind of guy you would want her to date? If the answer is yes then tell your family to back off and respect your decisions but if the answer is no then you need to maybe do some re thinking about the type of guys you date.
2006-11-09 14:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by MaryAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your family know that this is the person that you have chosen to be with and if they don't like it them to bad. Tell them when they grow up and can actually speak to you like grown ups then you will hear what they have to say, because if they can not give you a real reason why they don't like your b/f then there opinion doesn't count. Let your b/f know how much you love him and that is what matters and he should not worry about the way your family is feeling towards him. If he didn't really love you he wouldn't care about your family not liking him. Be strong and keep the faith. Good luck to you both.
2006-11-09 14:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a tricky situation....
Sometimes family knows things and sees things that we are blind too or subconsciouly ignore.
Sometimes family does not want to let us go and then make it very hard for us to break away from that group.
The hard part is trying to figure out what kind of family you have. Think back to other boyfriends they have met. How did they treat them? Is there one that you broke up with recently that they liked better (that could have something to do with this). Were they unreasonable to other boyfriends or friends you had in the past.
I hope this will help you delve into the situation more.
2006-11-09 14:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Trudy Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you want a clear example of what they're talking about, and give clear examples of nice things he's done to/for them. If they give examples of him being an asshole when you're not around, then maybe he's being two-faced. If they can't think of anything, then try to see if you can help them see what you see. Generally, though, I find that your family is better at seeing what's wrong with someone you're dating and I'd say if they can't be brought around, back away from him.
2006-11-09 14:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really hard - I hate to say it, but I broke up with my husband because he and my family didn't get on - they hated him. I have to say, he wasn't perfect, but we loved each other, but I'm so close to my family, and it made life just unbearable - I think you need to sit and talk and tell them how you feel - I never really did this - and if you love him, hold onto him, so long as he is a good guy. Maybe your family see something in him that you are blind to - hold out though, for what is important to you, but don't be blind to what your family can see, if this boyfriend of yours isn't all you think. Good luck!
2006-11-09 14:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lucia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family needs to give you a little more information than: he's an asshole. The fact that he's taken their crap for a year tells me that he must love you alot - alot more than your family appears to at the moment.
2006-11-09 14:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello.
maybe just try telling them how you feel about him and maybe if they see the Bright side of this situation than they might be-able to explain to you the "REAL" reason why they dont like him besides saying "hes an asshole" or "he just is" when you ask them why they think that..if they cant accept the person you love then you shouldn't accept their feelings at all.
maybe you should just remind them that this guy cares about you.and that if they cared about you they would support you in this relationship
2006-11-09 14:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by brittney<3. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is, that if your boyfriend seems like an asshole to your parents, just show them how great he can be. Ask him when he comes next time to see you to bring flowers for your mom and choclate for your dad. Eventually, they will see your side of it.
2006-11-09 14:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Time goes by 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hope that they will eventually come around. If the relationship becomes more "permanent" they might change their outlook and give him a chance. Just don't let them run your life. If you're happy then focus on that.
2006-11-09 14:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by jadelily78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't like him for one of two reasons.
He treats you badly and they don't like it because they care about you. If this is the case, they will never like him as long as he continues to mistreat you.
They don't like something about his personality, or he mistreats them. If this is the case, just try to get both parties to be mature and get along. It's the only thing you can do.
2006-11-09 14:09:28 · answer #11 · answered by helmut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋