I've let myself get feelings for a man who isn't my boyfriend and now I've gone and hurt him even though thats not what i wanted.
AAAAArrrrrrgggghhhhhhh HELP!
2006-11-09 05:49:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why am I being critized for having feelings? Surely its his fault as much as mine for pursueing an unavaiable woman!
2006-11-09 05:57:01 · update #1
Sounds like the situation got away from you and then you tried to get out of it?
You need to be honest with yourself and him about your feelings and decide whats the best based on that.
Its hard I know. There is no easy answer in this kind of situation. I am sure you never meant to hurt anyone, maybe try not to hurt anyone else or him anymore?
Good luck.
2006-11-09 05:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ice Queen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your real cute. I bet you have broken a few hearts. Did you get involved with this other man? Or was it flirting? Either way if you have a boyfriend you have caused this, saying sorry would be a start.
Sorry if you feel im having ago at you, but you were an unavailable woman (some guys find it a challenge to take another mans GF, proof of being a man perhaps)He was an available man, you really should have kept your distance. Look deeper into your situation, you say you have feeling for this other man right, then maybe you need to examine you relationship with your current BF. But beware the grass on the otherside is always greener. I have been involved with women that are "with someone" and felt terrible about the deal, and kept away after i could no longer stand the guilt. It doesnt take them long to find a new "bit on the side" despite their BF(always there for them). Finnish with your boyfriend to show some respect, then after a while take on the other guy, the top and bottom of the situation is you need to follow your feelings whilst trying to spare others feelings, good luck!!
also you say "you let yourself" get the feelings for this other guy, remember love finds you, you dont find love. Where do you find love?? You find love where love is!!lol
2006-11-09 13:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by SCOTT B 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey all you nasty people out there give the poor girl a break,I bet we've all had feelings for someone at a time when we shouldn't have.Realistically if we are truly happy with what we have we don't go shopping elsewhere.Even if it is only window shopping.
Cosmic I have a horrible feeling I may have played a part in your current dillemma and if I have I am truly sorry for that,I would never set out to cause anyone hurt or distress,and I did say that you shouldn't go by my experience alone and that the person in question may be being genuine in regards to you.If you want him I would say fight tooth and nail to keep him.Good Luck,I truly mean that.
2006-11-09 14:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by rhieanon6108 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I've been in this exact situation but with a twist.....I fell for his brother! Then my ex came back into my life and I did it again.
Eventually I realized that the reason I was doing all this was because I was unhappy in my relationship.My boyfriend was always going out and getting drunk and I was looking for comfort....but I do truly love him and I told him it was either me or beer and liqueur....and he quit drinking.....so if you love him tell him and figure out what needs to change.
Love always,
Katie
2006-11-09 14:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by blondefolie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you purposely did a mistake, arent you ashamed of doing this and breaking a guy's heart? dont play like this with guys anymore please. we guys have lotsa ways to flush out our feelings, but true love happens only once. all men got one mother, but why love should have a lotsa lovers, ex, broken, currently none statistics and all?
sorry, didnt mean to hurt ya personally. but you know, saying in general. what ya can do now is, meet him personally for a cuppa coffee ... tell him, "sorry, maybe my behaviour make ya have feelings for me, if ya have such, let it be, but plz forget it and dont take it seriously, we were friends, we are friends and we will be friends, ok ? but nothing else than friendship, ok ? think and say "
hope this helps.
2006-11-09 13:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Vijay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be nice if we could pick up and put down relationships without hurting people or getting feelings for people, but these things are what make us human, we just have to learn from our mistakes and move on. sometimes you have to be true to yourself and hurt others.
2006-11-09 14:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the trouble is cosmic blue is that we all like to feel sexy and special and we all tend to flirt to get those "feelings" i have flirted for years and all was good until it became a bit out of my depth with this one person i sympathise with you keep your distance and inevitable he will back off and "forget it" or he will ask you to explain yourself be honest tell him it was an ego boost that got out of hand and you did not mean to hurt him good luck most of us have been there xxx
2006-11-09 14:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by no nonsence 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After apologising sometimes you have to step back and leave the situation alone.
Things will get better if you give it time.
2006-11-09 13:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, you should appoligize to him and then you should move on because it is a slight chance that he may leave his girlfriend but it is a biiger chance that he wont. i was one of the lucky ones who in which the boy i liked left his girlfriend for me. so good luck.
2006-11-09 13:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by JiQuerine R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do now, if you go back to him and say that you didn't mean this or that, he'll really think you're taking the p1ss.
Just learn from it!
2006-11-09 13:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by little_friend 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋