How about a situation where telling the truth would hurt someones feelings or would get someone hurt?
2006-11-09 05:40:26 · 23 answers · asked by Enterrador 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When without misleading someone too much they are prevented from getting hurt by a lie. Sometimes though honesty is the best policy. It depends on the person/situation.
2006-11-09 05:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by chris_morganuk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's better to tell someone the truth than to let them run into an open blade.
A good technique is to translate the hard, cold truth into nicer wording, as in: "Yeah, you may have put on some pounds, but nothing that can't be lost within a few weeks", instead of saying flat-out "You're fat". People will appreciate it more.
Yes, sometimes the truth hurts, but people will feel much more stupid that no one has told them how it really is. Besides, everyone has to decide for themselves how they want to deal with their issues. By not telling someone the truth, you're basically deciding for them what's best.
2006-11-09 08:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never ok to lie. If you tell the truth you may hurt someones feelings, but if they find out you lied its worse than being hurt by the truth!!! I would rather be hurt by the truth than lied to EVER!!
2006-11-09 05:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The truth is highly over rated. We all say we want to hear the truth; but no one really wants to.
It's not only okay, but preferable to lie whenever your mouth is moving. Tell people only want they want to hear, make them feel good regardless of what the truth is.
Also, you should avoid confrontation at all costs. Rather than confronting an issue, lie about it. This make everyone's life a little bit nicer - at least until the truth comes out. With any luck, you'll be long gone by that time.
2006-11-09 05:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by kransdorff 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The truth at times can be painful...at times, one can be tactful with the truth...Such as when asked: Am I fat? (and they are)...it is acceptable to say something like.. Why, are you feeling fat?...If the answer is yes...then...just say..."Well, I know how you feel...I don't even get on the scales anymore". or..."I know how you feel...I could stand to lose a few pounds myself". or..."Yeah well, I have my deals I'm struggling with too". (I am sure we can all vouch for that.)....or.."Well, maybe you could stand to lose a bit...but I love you just as you are"...but I would never out right lie....nicely avoid if possible...but never lie.....Because you know why?....A fat person knows they are fat...and then they can't trust you to be a truthful person...and so on...people that are asking a question...typically already know the answer....I am assuming you are being asked...if not, and no one is being hurt, and no one is asking and it really is not your business...I would say refrain from giving your opinion of what the truth is....zip it otherwise.
2006-11-09 05:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would lie to save my life or my loved ones' lives.
I had a problem with telling the truth and sparing others' feelings - my mother always said "Speak the truth!" but when I did, she said I was hurting people, so I should shut up.
Is it any wonder children grow up with issues?
Frankly, I would carefully consider the ramifications before I get involved, but, ultimately, I am very straighforward where no one's safety is at risk.
2006-11-09 05:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that the only reason u could lie for...when u dont want smb to get hurt...but i thik that always the truth comes out...so if u are not sure dont lie because maybe when or if the truth comes out the person that its concerned may get hurt even worse...so think about it...but all of us lie...so....i dont know if theres a person that has never told a lie
2006-11-09 05:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its ok to lie if it will save someone from getting hurt.
2006-11-09 07:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes what a person does not know cannot hurt them,try to look at it as omitting the facts instead of telling a lie...
2006-11-09 05:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by roobeng.indahouse 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's good to lie when you realize that the person you're lying to is at the end of their rope and a simple lie will give them the energy to pick themselves back up again.
2006-11-09 05:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tones 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋