He knows the city and hospital he was born in, but is apprehensive of asking his adoptive parents for any information, for fear of hurting them. Any ideas on the situation?
2006-11-09 05:38:17 · 13 answers · asked by legs25_ca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the parents have know all their lives this day may come..
but you can get information from public information usually in the town or city hall archives....and at the local library...
you know what day ..start there....( it is a lot of work) and look at all the people who had babies that day...of course you can rule out certain nationalities faster than other... like if you Caucasian, it rules out a lot of the parents who had babies that day..and so forth..and you may have to go into the day before and the day after you were born, and do some tracking of those parents,and see if they have the amount of children they are supposed to have...like..one.on that day, plus any from before and after, then check to see how many they have a few years ago, and if it does not match, they can be a prospect....good luck
really good luck
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God Bless
2006-11-09 05:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows he is adopted, and he has every right to find out who is parents are cause they could be looking for him so i think he should ask his mom and dad about his parents and be honest with them and just tell them "i know your my mother and father however i would like to know who my real parents are and where i originally came from." If they dont want to give out the information you can always do it online it might cost a little bit you can try a yahoo search on finding people or go to an adoptive website i am not sure what the website is called but they have it there or the best thing would be talk to the hospital about where to find information but let him know that hes not going to hurt his parents if anything it could make the relationship stronger it all depends on how he asks them. I hope everything works out i wish you two the best of luck.
2006-11-09 05:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can locate the adoption agency that he was adopted through. He can also go to the hospital and start asking questions. Start at the source and ask them where to go next. THey will point you in the right direction. Somwhere there is a record of his adoption. You need to locate that. Good luck
2006-11-09 05:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before he tries to locate his birth parents, he might want to go get some counseling. It's possible that he might not like what he finds out. What if it turns out that he was born as the result of rape or incest? What if he finds out that one or both of his birth parents had a mental illness or an addiction problem?
I remember an article that was in the LA Times some years back, where a woman went to court to have her adoption file opened up to find her birth parents. All the file held was a newspaper cutting about a newborn baby that had been found by some kids who were out bike riding in a dry wash riverbed out in the country. They heard the baby crying. This woman said that it absolutely devastated her to find that her birth mother, whoever she was, didn't care enough about her to leave her somewhere safe. Her birth mother left her to die and it was pure luck that the kids found her and saved her.
If your husband finds out his birth story is something like that, could he stand it?
If he wants to go ahead, he might start here: http://www.americanadoptioncongress.org/search.htm
Good luck.
2006-11-09 05:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be cruel, don't you? Parents chose him, adopted him, raised him and gave him everything they could, heart and soul, to become the man he is today and he's decided to do this to them? Many times the adoption is closed, meaning NO info about the birth parents will ever be released. I don't know what he thinks he's going to find-- maybe a drug addicted prostitute mother with the "father" in jail. This is not a "romantic" road to travel. What makes him think the birth parents want to know him??
2006-11-09 05:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For an person adoption i do no longer think that the parents would desire to consent. In maximum states they do no longer. particularly some situations the parents do no longer even hear approximately it. You as a criminal person can sign off on your guy or woman adoption
2016-10-21 13:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey iam adopted and every one wants to know where they come from just be suport because its not easy to find people this days i was lucky to find one of my brothers and there are to that i have not found. i am glad that i found one some peple do and they are happy see i never got to find my mom or dad because they are dead but tell him dont give up hope i wish him the vere best iam 28 years old and i have a baby thats 19 mos old and i dont know what heath proploms he will have so tell him that its alright for him to find his mom and dad . god boess him on his new finds rebecca
2006-11-09 07:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends dad had the same problem...he went to some place...like a search team and they actually found his parents...u can probably find a place for him to get someone to find his parents....best of luck :)
2006-11-09 05:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by SoCcEr ChIcKa13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your local county court house to there vital statistics dept, thats your best bet to start looking there to get there exact names b/d's etc to start, get the name of adoption agency which most will not give out that sorta info but you can try, good luck in your search,,stinger5906,,,
2006-11-09 06:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call one of them talk shows he won't have to pay anything and he will get a free trip and get to be on tv
2006-11-09 05:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋