how come when a women cheats its the guys fault but when a man cheats the women had nothing to do with it?

Answer 1

There are as many males if not more who refuse to take responsibilty for their action as females. This has nothing to do with the gender!

Answer 2

I don't agree with that at all. If a woman cheats it is her fault. When a man cheats, it is his fault! If you're going to cheat, which I have never done, always broke up with the person before being with another. I expected the same from the guy. With all the stuff out there, a person should have the choice to be with someone or not.

Answer 3

Because women have been saying for years that they want equality, but what they really want is what they already had plus the positive aspects of the more they didn't have, without the negative aspects. The rights without the responsibilities attached to them. The benefits without their liabilities. The person who is supposed to be burdened with the negative aspects, in their minds, is the man. He is supposed to give without getting, shoulder the weight without complaint, protect even if it leaves him vulnerable to attack. And be happy to do so.

That compassion, gentleness, forgiveness, selflessness and the like are feminine traits is an old wives tale. I wish I had the PR working for me that women have working for them. Manipulation, deception and greed would better apply all around.

It's really nice that women can attack men here at Yahoo! Answers so blatantly and get away with it but men can't rally against it in the own defense, which means my answer will probably get deleted because some "poor, defenseless" women will complain about it instead of having a spine.

Edit: Here is a direct example of how a woman will place the blame on the man whether it is he or she that cheats on the other (just to be more specific towards the question asked):

If the woman cheats on the man it's because "he doesn't give me the attention that I need (whereas "need" actually translates as "want" or "desire")" or an extension of that which can be "he doesn't spend enough time with me because he's always busy doing something else". If the man cheats on the woman then she reasons it's because "he just can't keep it in his pants" (which in her mind, of course, doesn't apply to the guy who she is using to cheat on him with).

Personally, I have never cheated on any woman that I have been with. Never. It has never crossed my mind as an option. Although I can't say the same for the women I've been with. And do you know what the reason I most often received from them for why they cheated? Not the one above. It was that I was always so nice and thoughtful to them, that I didn't treat them badly even when they thought they had done something to deserve it, that they could depend on me and not have to ask me to do something for them because I always knew what they wanted and did it, that whenever I gave them a gift it was always well thought out and something they actually wanted, and that I was a great lover. That's why they always cheated on me, because to them I was too good. That's why they would leave me as well, when it was them that broke up with me and not me with them. And it's why they always came back for a second chance when they didn't get the same treatment from the next guy, and I almost never took them back.

I never thought to cheat because I figured if I was with a person then I should be with them. If I had sufficient reason not to be with them, then I should leave or they should leave. That simple, nothing in between.

Answer 4

It's always the fault of the cheater, anyone who tells you different is lying to themselves.
stuff like this has happened to me but she just couldn't admit to her fault and instead had to put it out on me. Want to know the messed up part of it all? She went around saying I cheated on her first,so she cheated second. I wish some people would just live up to their mistakes and be adults about things but the fact of the matter is Women are natural hypocrites. Fact of life.

Answer 5

Finally! A question I can relate to! Yes,why is that? My ex wife ended up leaving me for another guy,and yet,she BLAMED me for it all?! OOOKAY..so my theory is,apparently,she couldn't admit to her fault and instead had to put it out on me. Want to know the messed up part of it all? She went around saying I cheated on her first,so she cheated second. I wish some people would just live up to their mistakes and be adults about things. Yea,that is really not an answer,but boy do I feel you on that one! Good job!

Answer 6

WOW the war of the sexes is off and running.
Seriously.
IF either one cheats neither one could have been happy.

Equal fault. One with less control.

Answer 7

I wouldnt say that but when spouses cheat its usually because the other spose isnt satisfyin them sexually or emotionnaly so it ends up being both partners fault. on the betrayers part because tey could of just said no and talked to their partner about how them were feeling. and then on the betrayed part by not trying to make the marriage more exciting. but in the end i elieve both parties are wrong.

Answer 8

It's really not that way. The one cheating has to accuse it on the one they cheatd on, so it let's them feel less guilty.
There's guilt in those that really have a heart, but the ones who feel no guilt at all, will cheat tell no end.

Answer 9

It's always the fault of the cheater, anyone who tells you different is lying to themselves.

I guess some people don't want to take responsibility for themselves.

Answer 10

It depends on the woman, some of them lie and try to feel less guilty.