my gf seems to get along with another guy that she likes and that guy picks her up after while I'm away, is it a good idea to follow her after work discretly ...? because, the guy likes her ...!! maybe, that would be good to follow her, if I have doubts ..
2006-11-09 05:36:12 · 13 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way.. don't follow her. You should have an upfront conversation with her about your concerns. Suggest to her that you don't feel it is safe her getting rides with that other guy. Maybe you can driver her instead.
Also tell her that it makes you feel bad when she gets rides from another guy that you know likes her. If she has problems with this she is not treating you well... consider that she may not be the girl for you.
2006-11-09 06:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Trudy Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sort of hard to answer, but I would say not to, unless you KNOW she's cheating, or that she's showing very obvious signs. I say no though because if she isn't cheating, and if she even likes this guy a little, and she sees you (which is very likely if you have to be close to observe her), she will know that you don't trust her, and will be angry, break up with you, and everything else will go downhill. (just because you followed her!) You should try to pick her up... bring her on a surprise date, so it won't look as suspicious....
2006-11-09 13:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by Chocolate_swirls18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, when I have insecurity issues with my boyfriend I talk to him about it- I don't follow him around like a stalker.
What's more, he's allowed to talk to other girls without me getting jealous about it. He's allowed to go out with other girls without telling me about it.
My boyfriend had other friends before his relationship with me. Who am I to tell him he can't spend time with his own friends; guys or girls?
Not only that, but isn't a relationship supposed to be built on trust? If you don't think you can trust her why are you with her? That doesn't make any sense.
Talk to your girlfriend, explain the situation. It isn't complicated. There's no reason to make it complicated. Ask. Very simple.
If you don't like the explanation, break up with her. Again, very simple.
2006-11-09 13:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you definetly shoudl not folow her bc thats creepy and it will make things worse what i would do just talk to her tell her that it makes you uncomfortable that he likes her and that he pick her up and if she dosnt do a lot about your uncomfortnes then move on hun if she dont care and is trying to hang out with him you dont need a gf like that
2006-11-09 13:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u dont want to stalk her or anything cuz they is psycho and plus its not like you guys are married but if you really feel like she is cheating and you hear things from other ppl about her then just dump her cuz she should be hanging out w/you not some other guy!
2006-11-09 13:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by SexyAmby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should follow her to see if she is only friend with that guy or they are dating. if she doesn't like you anymore, just break up cause it will be good for both of you if you don't like each other any more.
2006-11-09 13:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by bettyxyz416 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should follow her (stalker) i think it would be better to tell how you feel about her going with himand that you don't like the idea that he wants more then a friendship.and maybe she'll stop once she kniows how you feel.
2006-11-09 13:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts, then break up with her. No need to be with someone you don't trust, whether your feelings are justified or not.
2006-11-09 13:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about it. If you do not feel like you can trust her then you should ask yourself if you should be with her to begin with. If there is no trust then its not going to work.
2006-11-09 13:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by PetuniaFritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do that its her privacy and she might get really mad at you, talk 2 her and tell her how you feel about it if she want him move on if she dont want him its luck 4 you
but if you no she iz cheating i guess do it
2006-11-09 13:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋