My b/f has a child from a previous 'one night stand' and just recently i found out that he gave his three year old son beer while at a party at his fathers house. i think that is irresponsible and wrong.
He says that his father let him have beer and that he turned out fine. YEAH RIGHT! Beer has been the biggest problem in his life, he has a DUI, fell off a three-story balcony while drunk, causing thousands in medical bills, and not to mention, got a girl pregnant and now has a child he can't afford.
I dont know what to say to make him see that he is only hurting his son. Does anyone have experience with a situation like this? Or should i just leave before some of his stupid-ness rubs off on me?
2006-11-09 05:28:39 · 19 answers · asked by jasmine 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
To answer Stacy...
According to my b/f his son started acting "funny" and everyone there thought it was hilarious so i assume he was drunk. He likes the taste of beer, he has even asked me for a beer before, and I dont even drink!
2006-11-09 23:37:28 · update #1
I'm sure u have already expressed to him how you feel. unfortunately he's not listening. if there is a problem with the drinking and ur b/f is in denial no one can really help until his ready. let me suggest trying an intervention. let his parents know her parents his Friends and go for it if you feel up to it because it will be difficult, hard and painful. hang in there don't give up on him you my be the wake up and or shock that he needs
2006-11-09 05:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by golden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with a guy very much like your boyfriend (on more than one occassion). In the first situation, the guy decided to stop drinking. He and I went to a happy hour with some co-workers one evening. Since he was driving he didn't drink that night. He watched at one of our co-workers downed beer after beer after beer, and then began with shots. This man was a therapist, married, with 2 kids. By the time we left, this guy was so drunk he was making my bf at the time uncomfortable. He asked me if that's what he's like when he drinks, and I told him yes. From that point on, until we went our separate ways, he did not drink again.
More recently, I was involved with a guy for 3 years who has an alcohol dependency. He and I have a 2 year old child together. I ended the relationship because of domestic violence that stemmed from him drinking with friends, and my being tired after a long day of work and not wanting to deal with him. He still has alcohol dependency issues, claiming that he is a social drinker. But no matter where he goes or what type of event, he looks for something to drink. I knew I was heading for trouble, when at our son's baby shower, he began asking people what they wanted him to go get from the liquor store up the street.
2006-11-09 14:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did the 3 year old get drunk, or was it just a sip? My son likes the taste of beer (he's two) and we let him have a sip or two when we have one (which is like once in a blue moon). I remember having sips of my dad's beer when I was young, and I'm fine- and definitely not an alcoholic by any means. I can't even remember the last time I had an alcoholic drink.
In your case though, leave the loser, he has bigger problems than giving his son a sip of beer.
2006-11-09 17:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you told the child's mother what the father is doing? You might want to tell her. If you are afraid of the "dumbness" rubbing off on you I suggest you leave the relationship before that happens. Good luck.
2006-11-09 13:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him before he gets u pregnant. I knew this old guy who usto give his grand daughter beer alot ALOT so much so she developed a drinking problem at the age of 10 when the parents found out it was grandpa who started this they had him arrested for corruption and exploiation of a minor he got 6 years in prison and rightly so. but you cant tell a man anything i would go if i were you soon too.
2006-11-09 13:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by auntie s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave because if the child doesn't have it's mom and the dad's a screw up that kid needs some kind of role model to look up too. Stick it out for the kid's sake. Make the guy go into AA and threaten to call CPS if he doesn't get help.
2006-11-09 13:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to show him actual events that have harmed children involving alcohol. A 3 year girl here in Vegas a couple of months ago was hospitalized because her 6 year old brother let her have a couple of sips of whiskey "a couple of sips goes a long way" especially in such a little body. According to the little boy mommy and grandma had let him have a little here and there... it almost killed his sister.
2006-11-09 14:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by Virginia1228 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
where is the mother have u tried talking to his mother if that don't work maybe u should pull some info up on the internet about what happens to kids when they drink beer. if it still doesnot help u should leave and tell him that you are going to call cps on him
2006-11-09 13:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by SugNspice_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should leave if before he runs you off..take your child and raise him right...of course his dad was a drinker..like father like son..but if he has a serious problem you should either leave for a while or make him go through some sort of rehab..it would be for the best
2006-11-09 13:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by blk_tn_mild 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call Child protection services and then get the hell out...you know this...you don't even need to ask.
2006-11-09 14:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋