Seeing a girl. Five dates down. She's great. I really like her however I don't really know her. My weakness is my emotions. I almost feel like bailing from the relationship in order to find myself again. However, I know that I could miss out on a great opportunity. I just want to be cool and make this a 50/50 relationship instead of ending up being the puppy dog and stressing out. Please advise.
2006-11-09 05:23:44 · 16 answers · asked by drsauce99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey, leave it out guys he wrote "in love" he's distinguishing between saying he loves her and being "in love". so u say she's great and u must be feeling the butterflies in your tummy and everything.. i know that feeling, i'm still feeling it after six months and loving every minute of it..and i'm glad i took the risk...i wanted to bail at the start because i had been burned badly in the past and was afraid of the really strong feelings i was feeling..afraid of being hurt again
but there's no fun without the risk...and there's never a guarantee
take the chance, enjoy your time with her, if she's as great as u say she is then she won't treat u as a doormat and take advantage of u, love is a two way street... she'll be thrilled to have found a partner who's not afraid to show his feelings!
and it'll work out...
and if it doesn't be glad of the time u had together, of the feelings u felt.. i never thought that i'd be able to open up and let someone in.. but i could and i did and it was the best thing i ever did..
cut the girl some slack, sounds like she's worth it...enjoy the time and good luck :)
2006-11-09 06:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww bless.
How old are you?
You say find yourself again, but if your this confused after only 5 dates, I wouldlike to know if you ever found yourself in the first place.
If you've been single a long time you could be (and rightly so) scared of falling too hard too soon for the wrong reasons. Its the same premise if you have only just ended a previous relationship.
Just keep going out, get to know her and see whether that tingly feeling stays or fizzles out.
Just don't tell her how you fee until a) you are 100% sure you know and respect her and
b) you have a pretty good feeling that she feels the same way, or you could frighten the life out of her.
Just take it easy, you have to learn to be in a interdependant, loving and commited relationship...
But who knows, maybe there is such a thing as love at first sight.
2006-11-09 05:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by KJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communitcation, that's the key word for you in this problem. Talk to her, let her know how yu feel, and make sure that she feels the same as you do. You are right about seeing it through, because if youleave you'd never know if she was the one, or not. It's better to have tried and fail, then to have not tried at all. You sound like a smart kid, now go out there and do the right thing, and be real while doing it.
2006-11-09 05:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In for a penny in for a pound DON'T run ,there is so much to be learnt about ourselves through the reflection of another .However there is no need to be a doormat ,think things through is she treats you mean take things back a few steps don't call for a couple of days (gives her a chance to think about stuff) etc then move forwards .....see each other a lot but take it steady ......don't make any heady declarations about your feelings use your head ,take your time and enjoy the ride :-)
2006-11-09 05:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by pussin boots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible for you to be seriously in love after 5 dates. It's not even a relationship, it's a girl you've dated a few times. You don't know how great she is, you barely know her. If you don't want t get involved, don't. If you do, keep dating and relax.
2006-11-09 05:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these people that think you're nuts to say you're in love after 5 dates. It can happen! Just slow down and enjoy the time you have with her. If you're in love now, it will hurt now as much as later. See where you go with her. Why shoot it down now? Have fun. Why worry about what's going to happen in a negative way... she must like you to or you wouldn't have had 5 dates!
2006-11-09 05:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got confidence the comparable way. during the summer season and days off from college, (i understand this sounds loopy) yet i like to awaken earlier 7:30 or 8:00, otherwise, i've got confidence like my day is wasted. i do no longer prefer to purely sit down around or sleep all day with the aid of fact then i've got confidence like I had a crappy day. So, yeah, i'm getting what you're asserting. :-D
2016-10-03 11:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m in the same shoes man
its hard bro everytime a girl expresses ur feelings for me
i run away which i dont know why i do this
and like u i m saying to myself damn i could missing out on a great opportunity
just talk to her express ur thoughts and concerns
then work something out with her
for instance ask to take things slow and have patience with u
2006-11-09 05:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being 'in love' is easy. Its always great early on. Take a deep breath and catch yourself in those moments and count to ten before you fling yourself in.
You will be fine. I am sure she is very luck y to have a guy who is comfortable talking about their emotions.
2006-11-09 05:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ice Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh grow up, how old are you, 14? madly in love after 5 dates? "find yourself"?! can you seriously lose yourself after 5 dates?? you'll be madly in love with some other bird by next week
2006-11-09 05:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋