im a single mum with a wonderful 2 year old daughter, what should i do with the babies father. he is married...and yes i admit i made a mistake. but now this man just can't let me go...he comes and goes as and when he likes in my life making it diffcult to move on with my life. He claims that he loves me and would like to marry me, he wants 2 wives (in the muslim law they can marry 4) im chinese. i never ready to play second fidle... I am his crutch whenever he fights with his wife. i just can't find the strength to say no to him each time he comes running to me for comfort ..how do i say no...
2006-11-09 05:21:23 · 6 answers · asked by thea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well my therapist had told me that if you work somewhere that you hate and are not happy and you quit and then they call you and promise that everything will be better you are more apt to say yes if you do not have a better job. But if you have a job that gives you what you deserve you will be able to say no to the old job. When you think about what was said it is the total truth as when you do not have a new job you may think that what you had before was not so bad but if you have something better you can have self respect and confidence in knowing that you deserve better. I think you should go on Match.com and look for a new Man (Job)!!!!!
2006-11-09 05:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Itry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you felt when your ex-hubby came to you for comfort. Even he is your ex but you dont have the heart to see him in that condition. Cos I do have a male friend who is married and came to me when he needs a shoulder to cry on.
Did you convert to Muslim? Well, you have to find out the cause of him fighting with his wife. If it is because of you, then you should talk to your ex and explain things out. May be you can tell him to stop hoping of reconcile back with you as husband and wife but perhaps as friends. I always believe that becoming a close friend is better than husband and wife and the friendship will last and it happen to me now. If you and/or your ex need to share opinion, write to me at sincereloan@yahoo.com.sg. May be we can share and talk things out.
Good luck
2006-11-09 12:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you keep spreading your legs for him every time he comes running to you for comfort... it will never stops and you will never be able to say No to this man. Be strong, you never mentioned that you still in love with this married man...Move on but since you have a baby by this man Considered Yourself Being Pretty Much Screwed Up.
2006-11-09 05:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by LaoSy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the strength to say no. How will your daughter learn what a healthy relationship should be? Do you want her to hurt like you are? There are so many wonderful, good hearted men out there.
2006-11-09 05:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by lmclear4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its gonna be hard but muslim or no, its not right.You are being put on the back burner.whenever he isn't happy with his new wife or is wanting something different he comes back to you and its not healthy for your child. you need to move on and tell him where he can go!good luck hun.
2006-11-09 05:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would just flat out say no if you don't agree with that multiple wife buisness then find someone else who only wants one wife. believe me you'll find someone when the time is right. and as for how to say no to him thats all up to you nobody can tell you how to get him out of your life excepy yourself. all i can tell you is to stay strong and listen to what your heart tells you.
2006-11-09 05:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋