My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years in January. I am 23 years old, he is almost 25. We have lived together for 2 years. I am ready to get married!! I dont necessarily have to be married, but I want to be engaged. I know that he wants this to. The problem is he can't afford a ring. We've looked at rings so he knows now how much they cost. He doesnt have a savings account and he basically lives pay check to pay check. What am I going to do????
2006-11-09 05:21:10 · 18 answers · asked by Krista P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was not intending to say that I HAVE to have a big ring. He THINKS I want a big ring. I have TOLD him that I dont and that that part doesnt matter to me. He wants to be able to get a big ring.
2006-11-09 05:33:03 · update #1
please its just a ring, i would much rather have a happy marriage, than a bad marriage and a big ring, get whatever you can afford and do it.....
ps whats the point of being engaged if u do not want to be married?
2006-11-09 05:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
An engagement ring is a symbol of you and your boyfriend's intention to get married. There is nothing that says that an engaged woman HAS to wear an engagement ring just as many married women don't wear a wedding ring. If a woman does heavy physical work with her hands or cares for a baby she sometimes leaves off her ring for a time. If you and your boyfriend want the ring anyhow perhaps you can both save a little by skipping dinner out or cutting back on some similar "luxuries."
2006-11-09 13:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On BlueNile.com you can design your own ring according to how much you want to spend, and they have financing so you just make monthly payments and don't have to go broke paying so much off at once. I understand why you want to be engaged, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and we are both 23. It just would make your relationship more official, people seem to respect you more if you are obviously committed. Maybe he feels guilty that he can't afford to get you a really nice ring now, and he wants to save up for a while. The problem is, if you guys can't afford a ring, how are you going to afford a wedding? Talk to him about saving up money together so that you can afford to have a nice wedding in a couple years! Just putting aside like $20 a month will help, and hopefully you guys can afford that =)
2006-11-10 10:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Julia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Off I completely understand.....
I am 23 and have been engaged for almost a year (our wedding date is 4/21/07). We were together 4-1/2 years (and had lived together for 4 years) before he proposed.
If he really wants to get you a nice ring, and cant afford one right now. Tell him you would be happy with a cheap one from Wal-Mart, and he can up grade it on your 5-year anniversary, when you are in a better financial situation.
Another option is to buy it from one of the smaller companies that do private financing....usually no down payment and low monthly payments. This is how my fiance got my ring.
Good Luck....I hope it happens soon, he will ask when he is ready....trust me.
Oh and I dont want to scare you, but the ring is just the beginning of the expenses when it comes to planning a wedding.
2006-11-09 13:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by atkinajean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that Engagement rings don't have to be diamnods either! Non diamond rings are very pretty and do cost less. I've had some friends who have gotten their birth stones in an engagement ring. It's not the price it's what it means if you really must get one.
2006-11-09 13:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start saving. Both of you. Even if its $25 a week.
An Engagement Ring is an investment for both of you.
A Wedding Ring is a symbol of love.
right?
2006-11-09 13:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing to do is wait. A man only marries the woman he loves, not one that gets him to propose.You can not make a man do anything..Sorry.(2 years is a very long time to wait)Is the ring an excuse?
2006-11-09 14:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you lve the guy and want to get married, just forget the ring if price is an issue. Save the money towards a down payment on a house or something.
Besides, who says he has to be the one to propose. Why not buy a plasma TV, get down on one knee, and offer it to your boyfriend as a sign of your love, commitment, and desire to spend the rest of your life with him? As roughly 50% of new marriages currently end in divorce, this non-traditional proposal may help you avoid that sad trend. Just a thought.
2006-11-09 13:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by henry9tx8 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't by an engagement ring just buy the wedding bands.
2006-11-09 14:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only 23?? What's the rush?? Give him more time to save or don't get a ring... no one cares... just get a band.
2006-11-09 14:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋