im single since birth,i'm 18 now and turning 19 this may of this year im very disappointed bcoz i thougght i would not be hard up on finding my boy becasue i have the looks"not for bragging" i feel jealous about those couple i saw around, i want him to come into my life now because i tought he would be the person who can replace the love which my family didn't give,i feel alone! another problem i have is that i am self-conscious whenevr i saw boys looking at me and when i am wlaking alone and saw a group of boys for more info. i dont have a goup of male friends. whats wrong with me?help
2006-11-09 05:13:42 · 13 answers · asked by astrid23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is time for everything and everyone, just keep in mind that your time will come soon...
2006-11-09 05:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing that you have to do is go to therapy to get rid of the depression and deal with the love which your family didn't give you. Not having been in a loving relationship can make you desperate and keep a well-functioning, loving and confident man at bay.
I also think that group therapy might do you a world of good because you would learn how to relate closely to others as you were deprived of relationships as a child. You have to learn relationship skills. You have 18 years of catch-up to do. It may only take a few years, but if the work isn't done, I'm not sure your goals will be reachable.
There are plenty of people in the world who are incapable of love. Make sure you know what love is.
2006-11-09 05:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Honey, don't look for it, it will come when you least expect it, I was just like u and found a great guy at 32 and I was looking since 15, all I found was heartache....couple of nice guys but there is a prince there for you, don't have high expectations, you have to resolve and heal yourself as far as the issues with your family first, (couseling may I suggest) then you will be complete and whole. then you can be able to provide and recieve good lovin, trust me, It took me years to understand this, but please do not settle for less but the best, and if you see yourself as the best that's what you will attract. U are so young, trust me I was right there with you, finally I'm OK> good luck and smiles. LOVE FROM SAN DIEGO
2006-11-09 05:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by a.j. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're freaking out over nothing. So what if you're single? You could always try talking to guys first, (you say you have the looks, maybe guys are just intimidated). Don't be so self conscious either, you say you have the looks so keep telling yourself that. Just be more confident with yourself, you'll feel better about yourself, and it makes you more attractive (and my get you that male attention you seem to crave).
2006-11-09 05:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Often times. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you.If you are having self asteem issues, you need to give yourself time.
You have years ahead of you so don't beat yourself up for not having him in your life right now.God had a time and place for everything and good things come to those who wait!be patient and let him find you!
2006-11-09 05:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing you just havent found some one yet, i havent had agirlfriend yet and iim self consious but i did have this 1 girl we kissed then i get an email saying that she has a thing for another guy. so your not alone
2006-11-09 05:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by psycho 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will find the perfect guy 4 you just be patient, try to enjoy yourself date guy's see wich 1 the best 4 you, dont let your self hunging, you will find mr.right
2006-11-09 05:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, insecurity shows through maybe be more agressive and take charge. but dont resort to bars slobbering drunk men wont remember in the morning.
2006-11-09 05:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem i am the same age and i do feel a little jealous of the girls that have noyfriends
2006-11-09 05:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for one thing astrid, looks are not everything, you have to have a great personality to attract someone.
2006-11-09 05:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋