I had been dating this guy for a little over 10 months and we recently decided to separate because we needed time to grow. Plus, he's a year younger than me and we wanted to wait until he graduated to date again. Anyways, he claims that he loves me and that he doesn't care if we're not exclusively together because in his eyes I AM STILL his girlfriend. With that said, he's been avoiding me ALOT lately and not returning my phone calls. He finally emails me to tell me that he is talking to another female now and that I shouldn't be upset, I just need to relax. Help me, please....
2006-11-09 05:11:44 · 17 answers · asked by ♥Spirit♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you should start talking to someone else too. Maybe that will help you get over him and what he is doing. The fact that you seperated because you "needed time to grow" should have told you that he was going to date other people. What did you think was going to happen? You were going to seperate and then just wait around for eachother? If that`s what you thought, you shouldn`t have seperated at all. You need to get out there and find a new man. Just let this guy go and do whatever he wants to do. If it was "meant to be" you will end up back together. In the meantime, you should go out and have your own fun and not sit around worrying and wondering what he is doing. Do your own thing and let HIM wonder about YOU.
2006-11-09 05:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ex-Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is a break up...you really just gotta let go. When they still talk to you, it's because they haven't found another to talk to yet. Which is why you still want to talk to him. Now he is being totally honest with you. At least you got that! Let him go for now and you move on too. If you two are meant to be...then it will happen again later. Over time you will feel for him less. I am not telling you this is easy but you really don't have a choice, do you? So stop agonizing over it and think of yourself as free to do what you want with no questions asked!!!!
2006-11-09 13:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find you a new man honey! Play the same game he is cuz if he really loves you and then sees you with another dude he'll say or do something, but if he sees it and doesn't care that just means move on for real. Guys don't even mean what they say half the time its their actions that say it all
2006-11-09 13:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by K@t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you both decided to separate BC you need time to grow well there's your answer its funny how people wish for things did you ever hear of expression carefully what you wish for BC you might just get it well he is right you should not get upset that he is talking to other girl but you should just do is date other people and if you guys are meant to be it will but Hun in couple of mount you'll be laughing all about this just let time pass and you'll be fine just take one day at a ttimee im sure he still loves you like i said give it time date and if he is meant to be with you he will good luck
2006-11-09 13:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says your'e his G/F so he can keep one while searching out for another (as he states, he's talking to another girl now). I too would suggest moving on. See he doesn't have to full wean himself when he has it both ways - to me that suggest's a weak person as it is. You'll be better off and don't be surprised that he comes back running...once he feel the chill of your ghost - gone.
2006-11-09 13:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Scott L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would move on because he wanted you to know that he was speaking to another female why could he not have used the word someone in place of female. he wants you to get the hint that he is seeing other people. but anyway thats just my opinion.
2006-11-09 13:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Obria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be blunt here. That is a huge lie to say. Move on, and don't let him back into your life (unless he wants to be friends and he's serious). If he wants to play games like that though... try to forget him, you're better then that.
2006-11-09 13:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Often times. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok after he said that he loves u and now he's acting strange saying that hes chatting to another female thats just acting childish especially that he ignoring u
if i was u i'll just leave him to it and move on but it all depends on how u feel about him
take care
2006-11-09 13:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
separating for time to grow, and waiting to date again cause he hasnt graduated....hmmm "We decided" but who brought it up.
My thoughts is you graduated, your not in his daily social structure of school, so I guess it was mainly his idea. In his eyes your his girlfriend, is NOT being his girlfriend... He likes someone else... move on.
2006-11-09 13:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Jello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ya not togother 4 now give him some time, maybe you should go out with some one else 4 a change 4 now, just move on
2006-11-09 13:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋