i really like this guy but he is 16 years older then me. but really truely love him. and a lot of people tell me that he's to old but i dont really care becouse i love him. now i dont know what to do. should i have a relationship with him or should i not.
2006-11-09 05:00:32 · 33 answers · asked by candygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are under 18 you shouldn´t go out with him because you could get him arrested.
2006-11-09 05:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Double 709 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the perspective of an older guy, God I hope so. Look if you are in love with a person age doesn't matter. I think it is terrific that you as a person can look beyond superficial looks and find something more in a person that attracts you to him.
The only cautionary note is if you desire a long term relationship. You have to ask yourself what are your goals in life. If they are children etc.. then his life might not fit into yours. I have a very good friend that is 63. He is married to a 26 year old woman. At 63 he has already had a family and even has a vasectomy. There is a huge source of conflict between them because at 26 she still dreams of having children. Sometimes people are at very different points in life when it comes to emotions and long term goals.
2006-11-09 05:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all basically boils down on how old you are. If you are below 17 or 18 ---- Please kid, skip the remaining part and leave the man.
If you are absolutely sure that you love him, then age shouldn't be a barrier and you don't need anyone's approval to be with him.
However, there is a flip side too. It might not be love but just a female's innate longing for security which comes with an older male. You probably were not completely satisfied in your relationship with your father (forgive me if it's not true) and your heart is comfortable in this paternal warmth which you might be misinterpreting as love.
I suggest you give yourself some more time with this guy to know whether it is just this 'comfort' feeling or true gut-level love!!!
2006-11-09 05:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Himalayan Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how old you are in the first place. If you are under the age of 20 then it is a no go area- off limits! However if you are older than 20 then it shouldn't be a problem
2006-11-09 05:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by laska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK if you are 16 and he is 32 there is a problem and he needs some therapy. Otherwise if you are 2 consenting adults that hopefully have something in common and enjoy each others company and then you shouldn't care what other people are saying, Like Bonnie Rait said in a song, "Let's give them something to talk about, how about love."
2006-11-09 05:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by puggas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on a number of factors you didn't mention....are you over 18, have you been married before, is he married, does he have chn., do you like chn., do you parents approve, are you going to have to hide from the world while dating him, does he fit into your world and do you fit into his, why do you want a guy so much older, etc. How can you love him if you haven't known him very long....much to factor in. Are you sure you're not missing out by dating guys your own age? If you both adults...this might be okay if you know what you're doing, but.......from the way you asked the question it makes one wonder.
2006-11-09 05:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first offf how old are you? 16 years is a big difference but that doesn't make it wrong. If you are under 16 I would take time and not get serious for a few years and just see how you two do together. If you are over 18 then why not try it and see i mean you are old enough then to make your own decision
2006-11-09 05:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by shycountryboy85 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, that's all that matters...(if you're 18 that is..you sound kinda young)
Things to be aware of in an age-gap relationship:
You may find that after the newness wears off that you don't have as much in common as you thought you did.
You'll have to face end of life issues with him much sooner than yourself.
You may find that you let him make the decisions because he's older and more experienced in life so you may come to rely on him more than you should. He may take on the attitude that he SHOULD make the decisions and that your opinions don't weigh as heavy as his because of your age...
Those are things you might not realize or discover until further on in the relationship but if you're aware of them and prepared to deal with them then you can have a wonderful relationship.
2006-11-09 05:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question is are you legal? If not then no, you should not date him and you don't love him, he's a pedophile. Ok, now thats out of the way... If you are of age then there is no harm in it. My parents were ten years apart. The older you get the less age starts to matter.
2006-11-09 05:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. My sister is in a wonderful marriage with a man 21 years older than her, but if they had gotten together when she was, say 16, and he was 37, that would have been wrong. Does that make sense?
2006-11-09 05:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say yes and no because i was in your situation im 17 and i was dating a 23 year old and everybody told me not to but i didn't care because i liked him but then think about u might think u love him but they expect u to be only with them and not hang out with your friends or whoever especially guys but why they already had their chance to live life they were young they should understand that now its our turn and that we like them and doing our own thing shouldn't matter because we like them but hey if he treats u right and doesn't only want sex then go for it
2006-11-09 05:22:53 · answer #11 · answered by Liz21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋