For the past five years I had been with the same boyfriend, and the relationship was extremely rocky and very unhealthy. After him moving and everything moving on, I started dating the guy I now love and worked with for two years, who liked me the entire time, and was my best friend. Even with problems with the last bf, he was there for me and never made a move on me. So now we're together and just moved into our own apartment and I know how picky he is and how he couldn't live with just anyone. Summer is going to roll around again and I want to go back to school, so does he. Prob is, when I was 16 and with the horrible bf I ended up not finishing high school, and now I want to finish so bad and go to college and get a degree. He doesn't know I didn't finish, as far as he thinks, I have. I want to take my ged without him knowing so I can go to college. I'm afraid he would be dissapointed in me and might not feel the same if he knew. I just turned 21 what should I do? I want to make
2006-11-09 04:58:36 · 19 answers · asked by Liquid Cherry Blood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
make myself into a better person, and go through school so badly.
2006-11-09 04:59:00 · update #1
Be honest, if he doesn't understand he's not worth it. If he loves you he will support you and respect you for trying to improve yourself. Don't ruin your future for a man!!
2006-11-09 05:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this could be an ice breaker for your relationship ... it's something important to you .. it should be shared with the love of your life ... he'd probably be more mad if you don't tell him ... he wants what's best for you .. and if there's any way for him to help you succeed - I'm sure he's willing to do anything ... it also shows him how much you trust in him .. if you hide this from him now - and finds out later - I'm sure he'll feel hurt and betrayed like you didn't have enough faith in him ... stop being so insecure about it .. and do something .. let him help you .. it might sting a little in the " pride " area ... but in the long run - I truly feel it will bring you two CLOSER ... sit down and really think about it .. he loves you - has been there for you during some of your hardest times ... why would you assume he's going to be disappointed .. you're trying to make yourself better - you said it yourself .. now suck it up and DO IT ... good luck with whatever you choose ... !
2006-11-09 05:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of colleges do not require a GED, you take tests there to see where you fall and they put you in classes depending on your test scores. But, if you really are in love with this guy, then why are you lying to him about something so important? You should be honest with him about EVERYTHING, no matter how hard it is. Going back to school is the BEST thing that you can do for yourself. Good luck!
2006-11-09 05:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by joniwarren22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start with honesty...its the most important thing in life. Do you love him? If so you need to be open and honest with him, if he loves you, I am sure he will be very supportive of you and glad that you want to better yourself and get your GED and go to college and get a degree.
This is just me, its from a guys opinion!!
2006-11-09 05:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid to be who you are with Mr. Picky, he doesn't sound so great to me. A man who is shacking up out of wedlock with a woman isn't in a position to be judgmental. I think you need to move out, go back to school, and better yourself. Don't be with someone you have to hide from. Be with someone who is going to encourage you and support you and be your cheerleader.
Your only other option is to tell him and if he judges you badly, leave. If you live and sleep with him, you shouldn't be keeping secrets- that's not what love is about.
2006-11-09 05:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a good Idea to start a relationship and not be truthful.
I can only speak for myself when I say if I was so taken by you that I would be willing to put myself through the kind of hell he did waiting for his chance to move from best friend to boyfriend.
he's not going to let the fact that you didn't graduate ruin what hes waited so long for I know I wouldn't.
but not being open and honest would be enough to make me re-think things
2006-11-09 05:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to our community college and studied for GED, from start to finish took 2wks. I would tell him the truth though. If y'all have a good relationship you don't want to lie about stuff, only creates problems. Just be upfront about what happened, why u quit , and about how u want to go back to further your eduction. If he cares bout you it will be ok
2006-11-09 05:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by slickgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well now a days u dont have to have good grades or any grades at all and u can go to college and if u want to do ur gcse's or any other exams and it doesn't really matter if u havnt finished high school
so yeh if i was u if u want tell him u didnt but keep in mind u can go to college do do courses what u want and if u havnt got any qualifications u can do them at college
if i was u i would go to the college and have a word wiv them and tell them what u want to do wiv ur life
take care
2006-11-09 05:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 11:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not be ashamed of not finishing high school lots of people havent this man sounds like he loves you alot you should tell him i am willing to bet he would support you in your effort to get a ged and proably help you study. so fess up and get going you can use your computer to find places in your area to get your ged and than go to college you should be proud of your self many people live there whole lives wishing they would have done it dont be on of thoes people go do it.
2006-11-09 05:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. You sound very sincere. If he loves you, he will appreciate the honesty and do everything he can to help you better yourself, including studying for the GED.
2006-11-09 05:01:28 · answer #11 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋