The other boy im talking to it is really compliacted with us... he just got out of a 4 year relationship about 8 monthes ago, and we started talking about 3 monthes after him and his gf of 4 years broke up.... no one knows about our relationship except a couple people. he is not ready to tell anyone bc hes my brothers friend and my best friends brother and he feels bad bc we ve known each other forever and hes the "good kid" and doesnt' want ppl to think bad about him but weve been together for about 6 monthes now and he still doesnt give me straight answers about wat he wants. So now my ex of 2 years came back into my life and wants me back and our relationship was rocky but i always loved him and cared about him and he says hes changed. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! leave the boy im a secret with or go back to my ex. what should i do
2006-11-09 04:54:41 · 13 answers · asked by holly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi
It looks like u r really confused between rthe two.U don't knw who to choose......1st look at both these ppl's gud and bad qulaities,who u like more,who is more sweet to u,who listens to u.If u plan to go back to ur ex ,break up with ur secret affair bf cus never play with feelings and if u plan to be with ur secret affair bf tell ur ex that u r sorry and that u hope that u and he can be gud frnds.I knw it's easy for me to tell but still only choose the person WHO U ACTUALLY LOV.Mail me if u wnt more advice.
lov,
varsha
2006-11-09 05:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well about the recent guy i think that he dont know what he wants and those are the worst kind of guys bc they will run around in a circule and at the end you will get hurt trust me hun i been there so he is not the one especialy if he got out of relationship and started seeing you right of the bat thats should have been your sign about your ex well ask your self why is he an ex well just let him stay an ex bc if it was rocky then it will be now or the best thing that i do if im confused right down a list of the both guys on on list right down the things you like about each guy and then right the dislikes about each guy if the good thing is beter then the other well theres your choises but i realy would just recoment nether i dont want you to get hurt there pleanty of fish in the see
2006-11-09 05:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself ,I would not ever be a secret-Due to the fact that would make me feel as if He is still seeing the other lady and don't want her to know he is seeing other people so it don't mess up what he has going with her.
As far as a old relationship I would not go back into something that did not work out the 1st time -Due to -too many other things have happened between the both of us that will get in the way of really believing in each other again since we have been apart
2006-11-09 05:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having a secret relationship with someone, you are a fool. Either bring it out in the open or toss it... By keeping it to yourselves, you are denying it exists to the world. Get up and shout it to all, if he cares enough to be with you, girl he needs to come out from behind the bushes.. he is giving you talk, this is a load....
Either ..... or get off the pot.....If he is not willing to bring your relationship to the surface and let everyone know, it throws up red flags for me.....
A relationship is a relationship... tell him you are going to announce it to everyone and do it...
About the ex... forget it... he is an ex... he might think he has changrd, but let someone else find out if it is the truth. You had your time together before, it is done....
2006-11-09 05:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you have to move on. I was in the same situation a couple months ago. I was talking to this guy secretly and my ex came crawling back. Well to make a long story short i went back to my ex and we got married a week later and now im miserable. Dont make the same mistake you will regret it.
2006-11-09 05:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ppl really do change but how sure are you that he has. don't rush decisions. your new friend shows that he is steady (been with his ex for 4 yrs) while ur bf and u were always on rocky ground. wait a while and see what happens. if ur bf had not asked for another chance, chances are you would have been patient with the new guy. so do that!
good luck.
2006-11-09 05:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im now not sure if he used to act that means while you have been and before you had been together, however... To me, it kinda looks like typical speakme to me. Random speaking i believe. If he starts the conversations, then possibly he does want to speak. Keep in mind, there is a rationale for each breakup. And if your younger- on the grounds that your dialog makes you appear find it irresistible- its kinda dumb up to now that individual once more. "knows" your obsessive about him.... You are? Totally not valued at it.
2016-08-09 22:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by aliaga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else entirely! When someone wants the relationship hidden, there really is no excuse! They have ulterior motives. As for your ex...oh he is done playing now? Girl find someone new. Don't play with these two idiots.
2006-11-09 05:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im uncertain if he used to act that way once you have been and earlier you have been collectively, yet... to me, it kinda sounds like frequent chatting with me. Random conversing i think. If he starts off the conversations, then according to risk he does prefer to speak. bear in mind, there's a reason for each breakup. and in case your youthful- considering your verbal substitute makes you look to be it- its kinda dumb to this element that individual returned. "is familiar with" your enthusiastic approximately him.... you're? completely no longer properly worth it.
2016-10-03 11:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOYS REALLY NEVER CHANGE FOREVER THEY MIGHT CHANGE TO GET BACK WITH U BUT WHEN YALL GO BACK TOGETHER HE'S GOING TO START DOING THE SAME THING AGAIN SO ALL I CAN SAY IS FOLLOW UR HEART
2006-11-09 05:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋