my girlfriend of four years left me because she wants to be single. weve been together since highscool, and now that she is 21 she said she wants to know what its like to be on her own. she doesnt want contact. how long am i supposed to wait to talk to her? or just wait for her to contact me. i really love her, and she said her feelings haven't changed she just has this anxiety. im very sad and am not sure what to do. how can i help her deal with the anxiety and at the same time bring her back?
2006-11-09 04:54:16 · 8 answers · asked by zmvncbsk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to step back and let her figure things out. This may take months, or years. I do think it's great that she had the courage to tell you. She could have easily snuck behind your back and cheated on you. But, you can't help her with her anxiety, only she can. Just be there for her. If you try too hard, you may end up stifling her and pushing her even farther away from you. Be her rock when she needs you. She'll appreciate your respect for her and I think this will prove to her just how sweet and compassionate you are. I hope she realizes it soon so you two can be happy again. ;)
2006-11-09 05:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are very young and it's normal for her to want to experience life out side the four years she's spend with you.
Give her time and don't call her. Is hard but you need to think that when she comes back she will never leave you again.
If you set her free and comes back is because it was meant to be. Nothing you do now will change the fact that she wants to explore the world on her own. You need to take this time and do the same.
If your meant to be there's nothing that will come between that, even a few months apart.
2006-11-09 05:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have friends in common, that might be the best way to deal with it. Talk to them and see how she's doing. One of them could just casually ask her if she's still interested in you. Another good avenue could be if you're well-liked by her parents. You could talk to them too. Just make sure she doesn't know about the indirect contact.
2006-11-09 04:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go live her life on her own. Don't be her little anxiety crutch. Let her experience things without you. If you "be there" for her, and help her through, all you're doing is making it easier for her to leave you because you're paving the way and comforting her. Cut your ties and let her feel the full force of her choice.
2006-11-09 04:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She means exactly what she is saying. She wants to be free to explore. If she is tied to you, she can't do this. This is the time for you to explore too! Instead of being so down about this...go out and have fun. No one should be tied down at this age!
2006-11-09 04:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just interested in another guy. I've heard the same excuse before. Trust me. They aren't single for long.
2006-11-09 04:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to come back to you, she will. For now, let her enjoy her freedom, and try enjoying some freedom yourself. You don't really owe each other anything.
2006-11-09 10:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it! Haha jut kidding!
2006-11-09 05:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋