How do you cope with someone who is dieing?

Question

My dad is dieing of heart diseases, the docters have told us they is nothing more they can do, me and my mum are finding it very hard to cope..

Answer 1

spend as much time with him as you can before he passes, you will appreciate that later....after grief however you please and get on with you life instead of dwelling on his death...more than likely it is what he would want and im sure he'd be proud of you

Answer 2

First, I'm very sorry to hear about your anguish. A dieing parent would be a tough thing to handle for spouse and children. My folks passed on when I was young (6 for my mom, 12 for my dad) and I have to say that it was easier being young.

I'm only going to give advice from my perspective. Others will probably attack me for this.

As a Christian, I believe I know where I'm going when I leave this earth. The bible teaches that our lives here are temporary and that we all live forever. We determine WHERE we live forever based upon whether we accept Christ and repent or not. Now with that being said, I can be comforted in knowing that if my wife were to die, I would see her later. Same with all my children who have accepted Chris. Christianity also explains why death occurs, what happens afterward and what we must to do guarantee that we end up 'in the right place' after we leave. So when confronted with tragedy like you and your mom are experiencing, we don't have doubts. We know the 'why and where' that causes fear and doubts in the mind of non-believers.

I would think that the "Why is this happening?" question for non believers would be very difficult. There really is no answer.

This is how I would cope and I sure hope it's helpful.

Answer 3

So sorry to hear about your dad.Death is very hard to cope with at the best of times,but it is especially hard when it's a member of your family.
Firstly,take it day by day.It's easier said than done i know.
You and your mum need to be strong,not only for each other,but for your dad as well.He's finding it hard to cope with as well.
Try and get your dad to things he's always wanted to do,as long as it doesn't over excite him.
Don't look back on the bad things,always remember the good times.Remember your dad the way he was before he become ill,that way you will always have pleasant memories.
Don't isolate yourselves in this time of extreme need,you'll need all your friends and family to support you.
Keep on talking,and bottle anything inside,talking does work miracles,even though you may not see it at the moment.

Answer 4

There are medicines out there but they are very pricy, heart surgery is another possibility but again, very pricy, if you've done all that you could, then there's nothign more that can be done. be with him as much as possible, tell him that you love him very much and that ur very thankful to him for being there for you as a parent and a friend. Nothing much u can really do except be with him, talk about the good times you had and that he'll always be with you in your heart and that he'll never be forgotten. Now lets say he passes on ok, all you can do it be happy for him that he's no longer suffering, and that he's in a better place with all his relatives. It will be very hard to let him go, which u must, because his sould will feel your suffering and will not want to go on to the other side. It may sound hard for you to do so but you'll have to let him go when he does. I'm sorry and i hope the best to you and ur family.

Answer 5

Oh chic, i'm so sorry to hear that, the only way i can cope with dying is the fact that we are all in the same position, we are born to die, sad really, but the important thing is the time you have had with your family and the time you have left with them. Be strong for your mom and for your dad, you all need each other to love, laugh and cry together. Remember that where there is love there is life. May angels watch over you and give you strength. xxxx

Answer 6

My Dad died from heart disease as well, and like you we had to watch him die....there is nothing harder........and my heart breaks for you

I spent as much time as I could with him, and made sure I told him every day how much I loved him, and over the years that has given my some comfort.
Some people don't get that chance to say goodbye, so in that way we are lucky.

Make the most of the time of the time you have left with....I wish I could tell you how to cope...I can't....but you will somehow.

When the time comes please consider bereavement counselling,
which will help you come to terms with his loss.

Take care

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Have you talked to a minister or counselor. They might have some good suggestions to help you out. I know it's hard! I look at death as a gateway into a better life -- one without pain and suffering. I've been clinically dead on the table, and I can tell you, that heaven does exist and it is more beautiful than you can ever imagine. I think you Dad will hate to leave you, but he will be at peace and not in any pain anymore. I will pray for you.

Answer 9

Can i just say how sorry i am to hear that.

My dad has been told he has a lung disease, which won't get better, in the end he won't be able to breathe and then...

Well all i can say to you is (and everybody is different)
It might be quite a while before this happens, and you will be sad, but make sure you enjoy the time you have left,

And say everything you want to say to him (don't hold it in)
And try and keep your chin up(the best you can) for your mum, she will need you very much.

God bless you.

Answer 10

There are many types of help, have you talked to any Hospice people?, Even if your father does not wish hospice care the people with hospice are very helpful in answering questions and helping you find coping skills. Just give your dad all the love you can and accept his moods for what they are, he may be angry at times but it's not about you guys, Your local churches may have some help with counselling for you and your mom.

Answer 11

You answered your own question! You have your mom, and you both have to be thankful for having each other, and spend every last day with your dad, like there is no tomorrow, say what you feel you need to say, so there is no regrets after the time does come. No matter what, you will have your other family members and friends, and cherish them til the end too. Good luck hon, I know you will get thru this. God Bless You and Your Family!