We met each other about a month ago and we really like each other a lot but my parents don't like the fact that he's so much older then me. So I guess my question is what other peoples opinions are on the whole age factor in relationships.
2006-11-09 04:40:44 · 60 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you love him, he loves you thats all that matters.
2006-11-09 04:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by LilahFairy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's a bit old for you, because your 20's are when you experience life and become an adult-- especially if you're in college. I suppose if he's never been married, has NO kids, and is steady in his career he might be ok. But if he's a loser who "acts much younger than he is" you might chalk up these last 30 days to dating experience.
A lot of times, parents are right. People who claim "age is just a number" sound a bit too immature to understand how things are in the real world. Age isn't a number: age is experience, education, maturity,. Since it's only been 30 days, you don't have much invested.
2006-11-09 04:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older you get the least age matter especially in your case 21 and 31 is not that bad. He is only old enough to the age of an older brother, not a father or grandfather.
2006-11-09 04:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really "wrong"? No. Will it work out? No. I remember at 21 thinking I knew everything and was mature enough to make these kinds of decisions. It's amazing what being 31 does.
You kinda have to wonder why a man that age would be dating a woman of 21. Sorry but I don't think it's a good idea.
2006-11-09 04:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My wife is 11 years my junior. She is more mature and knowledgeabe than women my age. If you are happy and get along, enjoy each other and let the relationship grow. You are both legal adults. If your parents don't like him for just the age difference, that's their issue, not yours. And she reminds that I am older and always will be and I remind her of the fact that she will be changing my diapers in about 40 years.
Good Luck.
2006-11-09 04:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? NO! The important thing here is how the two of you feel about each other. You're both adults, so the only opinions that really matter are the ones between you and him. So if the two of you want to be together, then GO FOR IT! Good Luck.
2006-11-09 04:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries. As long as you have feelings for each other that is all that matters. My husband is 10 years older than me (50 and 60) gosh that sounds old. Anyway we have been as happy as pigs in muck for all our time together. When your parents see that you are both comfortable with one another they should relax a little. at the end of the day the relationship is yours not theirs. Good luck.
P.S. My Dad is 12 years older than my Mum and they have been married for over 60 years!
2006-11-09 04:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by PHILIP C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has been married already.... Who cares you are both adults and should be able to make your own choices. If it is a mistake you will know soon enough. At your age ten years may seem like a lot but it really isn't.
My GF is almost 6 years older than I am but it doesn't matter, we are both adults and make our own decisions.
Give yourselves more time together to see if it works out or not. Don't be afraid to move on to someone else later. And don't be afraid to still be together later. Go for it if you want to. You wont know unless you try it.
2006-11-09 04:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just starting your life as an adult.. The age thing?? Hey, just enjoy his company, age (at least a 10 year difference) doesn't matter; you're old enough and experienced enough to hold your emotions in check for now...
FYI - I had the Ozzie & Harriot marriage for 28 years until widowed.. My wife was 15 years older than me. It definetly can work but it doesn't have to.
2006-11-09 04:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people hate on age differences? If you two get along and enjoy each others company, what is the problem? As long as he treats you well, caring, kind, and an all-around good guy, I would hope your parents can look past his age and see that he is good for you and get it over.
2006-11-09 04:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by davinm23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm about 20years older than you but the guy I'm engaged to is also 10 years older than i am. But at 21 to your parents that sounds like a really huge age difference. But if he truly loves you and you him they will come around. Good luck
2006-11-09 04:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋