My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 yrs. Since I was 21yrs old and I am now 35yrs. old and I feel that I am ready to be alone. Not in a relationship. I have not traveled, or did any of the things I feel that I am missing. I want to start my own book and just be able to come and go without hestitation and no questions asked. I feel that I just want to be free. But don't get me wrong, my boyfriend is 48 yrs old and he is a wonderful man. He has spoiled me and comfront me in more ways then one. I hate to break his heart but I feel this is something I have to do for myself. What would you do?
2006-11-09 04:37:54 · 11 answers · asked by ressie re 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no way that you will be able to avoid hurting him. It is really commendable that you don't want to hurt him and are trying to "soften the blow". Your reasons are very valid reasons and its not like you did something devastating to him or were unfaithful to him. You guys just seemed to have grown apart. I say, be honest. Tell him exactly what you wrote. Tell him all these things. You owe him that after all these years.
2006-11-09 04:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by jentenfold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly, ask yourself why you want do this now? Is it because you feel you have missed out on the life of a singleton? You can still write a book and be with this man if you wanted to.
Or maybe you don't love him anymore. If that's the case then the best thing by far is to just be honest with him. If you're not, that will really kill him.
I think that you need to think about it a bit more. Are you sure you'd be happy without him, or have you just gotten used to him and perhaps take for granted having him around?
Good luck
2006-11-09 04:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that....I have been trying to get my b/f of 3 years to see the exact same thing...I care for him, but am not in love with him and would rather just be alone right now.
Tell him you need to take a break and do some things for just you. It is a growing thing, and if he is mature enough, he should be ok with that.
2006-11-09 04:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Niffer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and explain it to him, when you do finally break it off ( which you should do as soon as possible because it will only hurt more the longer you wait ) Make sure you keep in touch, sounds like you guys could be really good friends, if he truely loves you he will understand, but he will still be hurt, just be ready for that. good luck!
2006-11-09 04:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not sit down and talk to him and try to work things out? If you just run away your being incredibly selfish. Who know, he might support you in what you want to try? Actually tho, you sound like you just want to be self centered and inconsiderate. Maybe he wouldn't want to be around someone like that. Good luck
2006-11-10 15:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not possible, unless he doesn't have a heart. You're going to hurt him no matter what you do or how you do it.
2006-11-09 04:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by jim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HEY CHICA,
I THINK IT WOULD BE BETTER FOR U GUYS TO SIT THERE AND TALK AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FILL... THATS WHAT I WOULD DO.. I KNOW IT WONT BE EASY FOR YOU CUZ HOW LONG U GUYS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER.. BUT JUST TELL HIM I HAVE SOME THING TO TELL YOU ITS IMPORTANT AND PLEASE DONT GET MAD I AM JUST TELLING U HOW I FILL!! OKAY WELL I REALLY HOPE EVERY THING WORKS OUT OF U!!
ALWAYS *ME*
2006-11-09 04:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by *SoMe*OnE*SeCeRt* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way just leave
2006-11-09 04:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by rich2121100 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to hurt him, no matter what. Just do it and get it ovr with.
2006-11-09 04:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you can do it with out hurting him.
2006-11-09 04:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by L@M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋