I have a winny kid... Ideas on how to curb this?

Question

My 4 year old son seems to wyn more than he talks. Its driving me nuts. I've tryed ignoring him but it only gets worse. I've explained to him how irritating it is ( in nicer terms of course) and how if he would just speak nicly I would be much more apt to concider is request. Didnt work either. He wyns about every thing from not being able to find his shoe to not wanting green beans on his plate. Please help. I've concidered gouging out my ear drums just so I dont have to hear it anymore.

Answer 1

Set aside one day to deal with this problem. Dont' deal with any other problem. Tell yourself you can deal with a tantrum on this day.
Sit your son down and explain that you are not going to respond to whining. Give him examples of whining. Then the first time he responds, say, "That is whining." Repeat what he has just said in the same tone of voice. Give him an example of what you want to hear rather than the whining. Have him repeat it. When he repeats it, praise him outrageously. Do not give in.
By the end of the day, he should be broken of the habit.
You will be okay because you've only dealt with it with energy for one day. The following days will just be reminders to him.

Answer 2

When he wines punishments and don't give in to the wines what ever you do. I baby sat for a child you I think talk in wines it droves me nutz so I one day I took matters in my own hands. He wine to go to jump on trampoline I said no go to your room and lay on the bed play with any thing and I will take it. He turned on the TV so i took it, he read a book i took, you get the point he just sat there I had a mess to clean up but he know I meat business. I never had to raise my voice or hand to the child just give him looks. Then sometimes I would put him in the corner, or the one he hated the most was watch a video when he didn't want to even if he liked the person in it. Barney with Manners. was my favorite and it always did the trick. I tested them on it. After 2 weeks or so his mom and grandmother had notice a big improvement so maybe it will work with your child. Good luck. When you watch the video act like it is the best thing in the world. I hope everything works out for you,.

Answer 3

They say that if you never give them what they want when they are whining, then it would not be a problem in the first place. Being a mom of a 3 year old makes me realize that that is almost impossible to do, but I think if you try to reinstate that philosophy, it would eventually work. When my daughter whines, I make a conscience decision to not give her what she wants. I tell her that she won't get what she wants by crying, and if she persists I send her to her room or to a corner until she can stop whining. This seems to work for us for the time being. Good luck!

Answer 4

Perhaps he needs a complete physical exam by a pediatrician ; [ child's doctor.] He could have chronic ear aches or sore throat, or perhaps his vision, children do not ' whine ' that much for no reason.And, why would an adult ignore a child. !! I would suggest you buy a dictionary at a second hand book store and learn to spell , after all you have a precious little boy to teach. How can you expect a 4 year old to talk nicely, you need to consider all his requests. Do you have him on a regular meal schedule. Kids thrive better on routines it gives them security.If you have had a tough life, I am sorry-- wipe your tears , hold your head up and know you can do it !! God Bless

Answer 5

Believe me he's not the only one. I was reading the other day that the ages of 4 and 5 are the whining ages...My Gosh is it ever true. I guess we just have to let it pass, my son has been a very good kid, still is, but he has the same problem, so just get some patience and it will be over one day soon...

Answer 6

The best way to get a child to repeat a behavior is to pay attention to it. So you are paying attention in some way for him to continue. You might not even realize it, but you are, maybe giving in too soon. I have also tried, saying to them " I can't hear you when you talk like that, can you ask me like a big boy?" My kids had a book once all about whining... it was for that age group. But sorry I can't remember names, my kids are 9-17 now.

Answer 7

Before giving into any of his requests, remind him that you do not like whining and that it will get him nowhere. Tell him to repeat his problem in a non-whiny voice and then, and only then, help him out with his problem. Tell him that as long as he whines, he's not going to get a reply out of you. OR - Tell him that you will take something away everytime he whines, like a toy or tv privileges. You need to bargain at their level so that they understand.

Answer 8

My suggestion would to record his voice either with a camcorder or just an old tape recorder. He probably doesn't even realize what he sounds like when he whines. Let him hear his voice. He will be surprised I bet. Haven't you ever heard your voice on a tape and think "Do I really sound like that?" I know I have! One time my daughter woudn't stop whining about her pants. I simply found something that I didn't like about what I was wearing and whined too! She told me to stop talking like that becasue it sounded awful. I looked surpried and said 'Really?" I was just copying you! She caught on real quick. Best of luck to you, Mom!

Answer 9

Try repeating what he says in the same whinny voice. Some times they get the hint and even start laughing cause it gets silly.

Answer 10

i have a 4 1/2 year old and a 3 year old and i tell them that i cannot understand them when they do that and will not respond to them until they are done. and also that it hurts my ears and they do not like it when mommy is hurt!! best of luck to you!