I work at a local Movie Theatre and I am 17 years old. I work with several males whom I also go to school with. We are always joking around having a good time, but a lot of times they will constantly tease me. I am known as the good, Christian girl that doesn't drink/smoke etc. Well, anyways they are always teasing me, coming up and grabbing my sides or poking my sides/back, grabbing my shoulders, sexual innuendos etc. I know they are guys and it is almost expected by why are they constantly teasing me? It's always when they are together too, because when it is just us they joke around with me but not as much. One of the guys told another guy at work that he thought I was "hot and beautiful" which of course I don't believe, yet he goes out with another girl who is willing to go further than I, but they aren't together anymore. The guy that said this also comes up and hugs me at work. Is this behavior inappropriate at work and how should I take this teasing?
2006-11-09 04:16:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always thought if a guy liked a girl he would try to be as nice and sweet to her as possible.
Guys--how do you behave when you like a girl? Thanks for any help! God bless and have a good day! :)
2006-11-09 04:17:16 · update #1
This is sexual harrassment and you do not have to put up with it- go to your manager and complain
And, yes, any guy worth your time will treat you like you are the most special girl on the planet.
Best of luck, sweetie.
P.S. Stick to your guns... there are a lot of guys out there looking for a Christian girl with morals.
2006-11-09 04:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a guy that can answer your question, but I am a 30 (or so) year old woman who knows the difference between harmless teasing and sexual harrassment. It's not harmless, it's rude, immature, obnoxious and disrespectful! I know it's hard to say anything confrontational to these boys (and they really are behaving like boys, little boys) but that is waaay inappropriate hun. Believe it or not, guys are guys and when there are more than one of them, it fuels their immature fire. And some of them don't grow out of this, btw. ;) It's not right, and they could be in serious, even legal, trouble. When a guy likes you (not only in the physical sense) he will treat you with respect, the way any person wants to be treated. Could you talk to them and ask them to cut it out? Maybe speak with your supervisor? Don't stand for it. And don't comprimise your virtues for a guy just because he's used to it and that's what his other girlfriend did! You're better than that, you're smarter than that, and you deserve a helluva lot more respect than that! And as for being hot and beautiful, don't say you're not, that is probably very true, and surely the only thing that these little boys are very right about! Good luck hun. ;)
2006-11-09 04:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to set these BOZOS straight! That is not appropriate work behavior. Teasing is ok once in awhile but not all the time. Touching and the sexual innuendos are a no-no. I realize that the attention feels good. Then put a line there. Tell them you accept the occasional teasing but touching is out. Next on to do it gets hit over the head!
2006-11-09 04:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by mich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they're harassing you and you aren't interested, tell them to **** off. you shouldn't be molested at work if you're not down with that. and if the guy is with a girl and goes around calling co workers "hot and beautiful", then he's an ********. it definitely is inappropriate behaviour. and if you're bothered by the teasing, come back at em with better lines than they've used.
2006-11-09 04:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by livingthelie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to put up with this at work. The next time one of these guys touches you or says something inappropriate, speak up and tell them to please not do that again. If they continue, report the behavior to your supervisor. This is called workplace harrassment & is illegal. But if you allow it to continue without speaking up, you won't have much basis to complain.
2006-11-09 04:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, teenagers have raging hormones, especially the males. So if they "playfully" touch you, it means that they like you, and are exploring your body in a manner where you will let them.
If you feel comfortable with the contact, that is alright. But once you feel uncomfortable, please say so that instant; let them know your boundaries, so that if it happens again, you will know that is intentional, and best for you to keep your distance with that person.
Peace be with you.
2006-11-09 04:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by tranquil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them bug you, they are jealous of you and your beliefs. It's just a game to them, who can get the farthest with you. If a guy likes you he will tease you but usually will get shy around his friends so he doesn't let on that he likes you.
2006-11-09 04:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by cfursa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inapporpriate behavior for work - especially if it is unwelcomed. You should tell them to stop when they are touching you, and if they dont tell the manager. if you like this attention, then you have nothing to complain about :o)
2006-11-09 04:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by hersheekysses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋