I am 23 and my mother in law is 50 I have been married for 3 years and my mother in law tries to act like me, she tries to dress like she is my age,and not only that but she still treats my husband like a 5 year old and yeas he is an only child. Whenever we are going out of town for sometjing she has to make sure he has packed everything and makes sure everything is in place. So on and So on. What did all you daughter in laws do to ignore your mother in laws
2006-11-09 04:16:25 · 7 answers · asked by sallymollyap 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I too have ma-in-law issues. She drives me NUTS!!! For the most part, I just try to let things go because if I don't it turns into a big dramatic thing. I have had many discussions with my husband about her and he is finally starting to see the things she does. When you do talk to him make sure to tell him how it's making you feel when she does certain things. Don't point the finger at him or his mother because that will only make him want to defend himself or his mom. Basically, she's going to keep doing what she wants to do and the only thing you can hope for is his understanding in how it makes you fell. I feel so much better knowing that I can discuss these things with my husband without him jumping to his mother's defense. And just so you know, it gets worse when you have a kid. We have a daughter and know there are more places for her to put in her 2 cents. All in all, I feel a lot better just knowing that my husband isn't blind to his mothers behavior anymore, so her silly comments and stupid actions don't seem to bother me as much. I take a lot of comfort in the fact that at least she's not MY mother. I hope that helps.
2006-11-09 09:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by KBGood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she has done this before she met you then leave the dressing issue alone, she's probably going through a mid-life crisis. As far as the treating her son like a five year old part, if he doesn't like it he'll tell her, maybe he's a mommy's boy, what can you do about that? On your other question, what did I do to ignore my mother in law, I be myself, if she doesn't like me it really doesn't matter, I married her son, not her.
2006-11-09 12:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by psychotic_milf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough issue because basically from what you have told me is that he is a mommas boy and trying to break away the titty from the mouth is hard.
when you have had enough you will know but don't wait till then. You need to sit down with your husband and tell him how this is effecting you and your realtionship with him.If he doesn't want to help you resolve this problem it is prolly because he enjoys the attention.Then you need to talk to his mother before things get out of control.I've been there and its harder when you have a child.
if that doesn't work and ure still not happy then you need to move on, who knows he might just grow some balls and have a chat with his mom.good luck.
2006-11-09 13:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's trying to stay involved. Maybe she doesn't know how to relate to you so she tried to be like you. It's always hard for Moms to let go of their babies (especially if they are boys AND only children) so try to be patient. If it truly gets to be a problem, you need to sit down and have a honest, heart-to-heart conversation with her and let her know your feelings. Chances are she had a mother-in-law, too, and will understand. She probably thinks she's just being helpful and doesn't realize she's overstepping her boundaries.
2006-11-09 12:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by wish2bwriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore her, she just wants to be involved in your lives... It is the mother in her not wanting to let go. Make her feel useful and like she has some value to the two of you... Why not go over and tell her that you would really like your hair to look super for when you and your husband go out and you would like her to help you out. Don't complain about her wearing stuff like you do, shoot that is like having a whole extra set of clothes you can borrow from her... When she gets ready to pack for a trip, go over and help her pack, let her know that you just do not want her to forget anything...
2006-11-09 12:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best if you try to be good friends with her. A mother/son relationship is hard to get in the middle of. They are close and that's to be expected. Try not to let her get to you so much. He is with you and she is just Mom. Good Luck.
2006-11-09 12:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well mothers are overly protective over their baby's she may be affraid of growing older & some moms dont feel like they are their age so yes they try to keep up with their youth. just do you & dont worry abut her she feels treaten by you
2006-11-09 12:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋