I've only been in two sexual relationships. My ex used to always be in the mood, so much so that sometimes I got tired of it. My current boyfriend, however, says he's always up for it, but never initiates anything! I am so attracted to him that I find myself constantly wanting him. When we do anything physical, it's absolutely amazing. I just want it with greater frequency (5 times a week seems to be our norm). I try and suggest we go hang out alone together, but he's oblivious to the meaning of my requests. It's almost like I have to say, "I want you now" for him to do anything. And yet, he's constantly telling me how hot he thinks I am. Is this weird? Is he just not into me? How can I make him want to initiate things?
2006-11-09 04:08:44 · 9 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax, it is just who he is. Growing up we all experience life differently and develop different ideas regarding how to treat people. Your current boyfriend sounds like he has grown up with the idea that men shouldn't be aggressive and force sex on women. I can relate to him in that to a large degree I feel the same way. We see and hear so much about men forcing women into having sex that some of us tend to go over board the opposite direction. He feels like he is doing the right thing by waiting for you to initiate things rather than forcing it on you. The best thing you can do is to talk to him and let him know it is ok for him to initiate things some times. Realize though this will be hard for him to do so be patient and be glad you have a guy that respects you and doesn't feel like your required to have sex with him when ever he wants it.
2006-11-09 04:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You used to be in the position where you were the one who was not giving out the sex and you were the one who was annoyed by your partners sex drive. I used to be in a relationship where I was the horn-dog and wanted her constantly and she was the one who would resist. I eventually got kind of insecure because after a few days without sex you have to ask yourself, is this person attracted or not really. My answers came after the relationship ended! I didnt make enough money for her to feel secure and safe, which put a damper on her drive ( some people are just wired differently ). My recomendation for you is, study your man! When he finally gets horny, take a look at what is going on in his life! He may be the type that only gets hot when everything is squared away and all business is done for the moment ( by the way these kind of people can drive me nuts). Look if you decide to stay with this person and you want to work through this very critical problem, you must read this book together with your partner, for it will surely explain what is going on or it will determine if the two of you are meant for each other. Its called: Relationship Strategies; the E & P attraction. The E stands for emotional and the P for physical. Basically the book tells why opposites attract and how they understand each other without misunderstanding each other so that the relationship does not fail because of stupid misunderstandings. If I had read this book in my past relationships it would have saved so much arguing and confusion.
2006-11-09 04:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Adam B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's shy. Tell him the same thing you're telling us, with the same words. You love him, you need him, you want him!! You both have to trust each other so it's normal you have some sexual trouble at the beginning, but, you have to talk about it. If he cares about you, he will understand.
2006-11-09 06:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by *Atenea* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 13:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men find it hard initiating sex. it's best just to come straight out and ask him why he doesn't initiate it.
2006-11-09 04:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by livingthelie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just so slow, dressing up pretty can do the trick
2006-11-09 04:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 times a week is more than most ppl go at it.
2006-11-09 04:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP GIVING IT TO HIM FOR A WHILE AND WHEN HE IS IN THE MOOD DONT BE YOU CAN ALWAYS PLZ UR SELF GOOD LUCK
2006-11-09 04:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by maddog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you initiate things
2006-11-09 04:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋