My sister in law has been flirting with me and I'm not sure if it's just for fun or serious. We are close and talk at all the family parties. I know her marriage is rocky. I would never do anything to ruin my marriage. Any suggestions on how to approach this?
2006-11-09 03:58:12 · 11 answers · asked by Your #1 fan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
rather it be your brothers wife or your wife's sister handling this type of situation can be done but should be done with tactfulness. Tell her your flattered and it is cute but it makes you feel bad because you know it is wrong and it places your mind away from your wife and she deserves better than that. You will be surprised how quickly respect is formed
2006-11-09 04:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister-in-law is either your brother's wife or your wife's sister. Either way, getting involved would have serious negative consequences for you. Nothing wrong with a little flirting, it makes life interesting. However, never give even the slightest thought to actually doing anything beyond talking to her at public family events. Don't try to see her or talk to her outside of the family gatherings or it will send a wrong message to everyone who becomes aware of it. If she makes any kind of a move on you, tell her that you are flattered, but you would never think of breaking your marriage vows.
2006-11-09 12:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Andreas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you are positive she is flirting with you. Some people are really big flirts and don't even know they are doing it. See if she acts that way with other men. You wouldn't want to say something to her and then be wrong and offend her. Plus then you will be on bad terms with your brother. Once you are sure this is whats going on, you have to tell her. Pull her aside in private and tell her she needs to stop and its not appropriate, also that you want nothing to do with that kind of situation. And if she doesn't stop, then you are going to have to talk to your brother and see if he can do anything.
2006-11-09 12:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will come of it as long as you hold your ground. The only thing that will ruin your marriage is your actions. If she does something inappropriate or draws the line that is when you should say something. For now I would stay status quo because no harm will be done as long as you stay smart.
2006-11-09 15:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her right up front that you don´t like this and that you don´t care if it is a joke or not , that you don´t think it is funny. Let her also know that you will tell her husband about what is going on unless she stops.
2006-11-09 12:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just tell her that you are family now and that you dont want anything to come of it. or you could just ask her if she is flirting with you, and tell her that you dont really like it. i hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-09 13:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by capegirl_rocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just avoid this situation this is good for every body.
2006-11-09 12:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from her! nothing good will come from that.. recently my sister-n-law slept with my ex boyfriend! trust me its not a good thing.. :(
2006-11-09 12:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by Missy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to knock it off. Straight out.
2006-11-09 12:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your sister-in-law so she has to be married to your brother, if i was you will tell her to stop that you dont feel comfortable with her flirting with you, and let her know that if she doesnt you'll tell her husband....
good luck
2006-11-09 12:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋