after i broke up with gf of 6 years i can't get my s*it together.. Read books, stayed away from booze and drugs, hung out with friends as much as possible and cried a bucket of tears... still no change
mabey im not normal ..
so depressed, we were engaged and had dreams .. now their gone.
would be unfair to start dating someone to get over it .. don't want to use anyone (selfish) .. but i can't think of another way.. been on dating forums .. feel like a loser! ..
2006-11-09 03:50:03 · 13 answers · asked by pedro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are so NOT a loser! You are obvviously a very caring, compassionate person! And I agree that jumping back into the dating pool is not always the best choice. Your wounds run very very deep, and it sounds like you are using very healthy and constructive ways to help them heal. Kudos to you for that! But unfortunately, time is the only healer. You could try counseling, or maybe depression is an undiagnosed problem for you?? (Especially if it runs in the family.) I hate using the cliche that life does go on, but it is true. But take time out to pat yourself on the back for working so well at feeling better and doing it the healthy way. When I divorced, I was single for 7 years. Yes, it sucked, but I'm happy today, and it wasn't easy. Talk to someone to get these feelings out, realize the positive things in your life. You're not a loser for hurting, you're a winner for being able to recognize your pain and for trying to fight it, instead of it trying to beat you down! Good luck. :)
2006-11-09 03:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not beeing selfish. This is the right thing to do. You don't have a wife nor girlfriend so you are not cheating. You have the rights to go out and meet more people. You are feeling depressed and lonely because you have not met the person to cheer you up like you ex. Be patient! Life sucks sometimes. Is she married / single? If not, may be you could give it another shot. Otherwise, you will have to meet new people.
2006-11-09 04:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Inquirer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 09:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long you two have been broken up, it'll really take some time to get over it. It's not something that'll just take a week. You two have a lot of history and that's the sucky part. Just keep doing what you're doing. Live your life normally, keep positive people around you, NO DATING TILL YOU'RE SURE YOU'RE READY and do your best to keep busy so you don't end up sulking. Hang in there, it does get better!
2006-11-09 03:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal for you to feel the way you do galde to read that you want use another female to comfort your pain good choice, just be patient now is the time for you to focuse on you allow the tears to flow your human reminse on what was but hold your head up & remember every thing happens for a reason. there is some one for you & her just be patient dont go out looking let that someone come to you go to the gym work out getting physical fitt is always good for you enjoy doing things with your self you are loved gl
2006-11-09 03:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are normal. it's just been hard getting over her. you should start dating and in the beginning it would be to get over things with your ex but it could become more and she would be the one you think about all the time. maybe your craving something with your ex that wasn't there, and you will find a girl who will give it to you.
2006-11-09 03:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by sleepyme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, it just takes time. It's OK to date casually, just be honest and let the female know that you just came out of a serious relationship. Good luck!
2006-11-09 03:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years is a long time. don't be so hard on yourself and stop calling yourself a loser. i would start dating again as soon as possible.
2006-11-09 03:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by havingfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lack self esteem my friend. Therapy helps. Take dance lessons. Your bound to get a partner...dancing is fun...and music is good therapy...your more apt to get a smile out. I lost my love, too.
2006-11-09 03:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Win 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww. Somebody needs a group hug. It'll get better.
2006-11-09 03:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋