My 3 year old son started having accidents in his pants and hiding. This told me that there may be something going on with him that was inappropriate. I talked with him and thats when he told me his cousin (9 years old) touched his "hiney". She put her hand inide he said. He told me he told her it hurt and she wouldn't stop. He was with a friend of mine who also has a son a couple months older and they were both found to have their pants down. This was my sons doing. This concerned me so I took my son to his pediatrician who then referred him to a psychologists. I am curious to know what approach a psychologists will take in talking to him about this. He will no longer discuss this with me. When I let him know that he can talk to me about ANYTHING he yells at me "that nothing happened". He has been found playing with dolls and the "hiney" part. When asked what he was doing he says "nothing". I also have a 17 mnth old daughter & concerned that I can not let them play alone
2006-11-09 03:49:33 · 8 answers · asked by Lisa H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My 3 yr old son started having accidents in his pants & hiding. This told me that there may be something going on with him that was inappropriate. I talked with him & thats when he told me his cousin (9 years old) touched his "hiney". She put her hand inide he said. He told me he told her it hurt & she wouldn't stop. He was with a friend of mine who also has a son a couple months older & they were both found to have their pants down. This was my sons doing. The pediatrician referred him to a psychologists. I am curious to know what approach a psychologists will take in talking to him about this. He will no longer discuss this with me. When I let him know that he can talk to me about ANYTHING he yells at me "that nothing happened". He has been found playing with dolls & the "hiney" part. When asked what he was doing he says "nothing". I also have a 17 mnth old daughter & concerned that I can not let them play alone. I told my neices mother about this to only be told my son was lying.
2006-11-09 04:21:57 · update #1
First and foremost the psychologist will focus on helping the child to learn that sexual contact is not appropriate behavior. At that young age, and toddler is not aware that such contact is not normal, and it is the Dr.s job to reinforce with the child that this was wrong, and also to help the child not carry feelings of guilt or anger. Then the Dr. will begin to reinforce what healthy contact is between children and between children and adults. And also, your son will need help in regaining his trust of his peers and of those whom he thought were supposed to protect him. -Janet
2006-11-09 03:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will talk to your son and make him comfortable. They will probably observe him through a two way mirror, playing with a doll, and see what he does to the doll. They'll ask him if the things he does to the doll have been done to him. Find a child psychologist that is specially trained to deal with younger kids, because they are going to pick up on things easier than a psychologist that is trained for teens. I'm sorry that this is so hard for you, but the sooner you get the problem solved, the better.
2006-11-09 12:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was molested by a close adult family friend for about 2 yrs when I was 3 yrs old. I never injured my family growing up. Just make sure that you're supportive and let him talk when he wants to. I never came forward until I was 6 yrs old so even then I was embarrassed about the situation. I remember during those 2 yrs (I'm now 27 y/o) that I knew that what was happening was bad and I didn't want it to happen to anyone else. As long as he knows that you're there for him he'll be fine. As for the psychiatrist talk to them you have a right to make sure your child gets the best care possible. As for your sister...there's reports and stories of mother's that are in denial about their abusive husband to their children. Just don't hang around the sister. Your number 1 priorty is your child above your sister...I pray that your son will be okay...
2006-11-11 18:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by doom92556 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are things you need to talk the doctor about you should have a consultation visit, he or she should tell you what they are going to do and is there for answering your questions. I've only seen this on TV but they ask the child where they were touched and that type stuff. The parents of the cousin needs to be contacted for them to watch her, maybe something is happening to her.
2006-11-09 11:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to the mother of the older cousin. this child is also displaying signs of sexual abuse and is acting out what has happened to her.
secondly, the counselor will ask you child what happened and will help your child understand that it was not his fault. being this was done by a child. his main concern may be for the older child. try not to worry. everything will be fine
2006-11-09 12:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to say something to the 9 year olds mother. maybe she too is being molested and thats why she is doing this to your son.
she needs to see a psycologist as well.
2006-11-09 12:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is all a part of growing up,and these pschologists just go over the top,beware your child isnt taken into care,as some kids have for less than this.
2006-11-09 11:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't know. I wish my mom would've been as concerned as you are with me.
2006-11-09 11:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by nakedandsucking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋