we have talked 3 times. he aksed me out on a date, but got called away on biz. But now its been three days and i haven't heard. i was just trying to figure out if he just lost interest or maybe just really busy. my gut tends to lean to the negative, but i am farely new at the whole dating thing.
2006-11-09 03:43:56 · 18 answers · asked by mandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't call him. It sounds like he's changed his mind. Move on. If he does call, ask for an explanation.
2006-11-09 03:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know how he feels. If you are willing to be a bit vulnerable I would just give a quick call. If you leave a message just say something like " I hope everything is o.k. at work, just wanted to say hi" if he answers I would just sound cheery and pretty much say the same thing but maybe ad on that you only have a minute to talk. If you get a bad vibe just be a lady and say thanks for dinner or something and see you around sometime.. or you could just keep waiting to see if he calls you. He doesn't sound very gentleman like to not have called and apologized by now. I think that is pretty rude and myself, I would not call him because if that is how he handles himself after your date being interupted when he is trying to make a good impression then how will he be later after he was comfortable with you. Maybe there just wasn't any chemistry between the two of you after all and he is a rude jerk who skipped out on you.
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are you saying that he was called out of town before you actually went on your date?? If that is the case I would just give him a call to say hi and tell him you are just trying to ad some cheer to a busy work schedule?? I wouldn't worry about it.. probably just busy. But I'd call just so you can put your mind at ease.
2006-11-09 03:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by rsf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who is interested will move heaven and earth to make sure his girl knows she is in his thoughts, biz or no biz. Its a priority or not. If not, move on, NEVER EVER sit by the phone waiting. Its not good for you and its not good for the guy. Any guy who know you are sitting waiting for you, will A) Not respect you B) Will call you when he has exhaisted his A list girls (who are not sitting by the phone waiting for him to call either). C) Will do this repeatedly until he realizes you might find someone else if he doesn't do something. You know why, when you are at the car lot looking at cars, they don't have phone numbers all over em? Because when someone WANTS the car, they fill out the paperwork, make a deposit, they SHOW by doing, that they are interested! Get a clue Vanna, don't sit there hiding your light, get it out there where someone will make a deposit on you and let you know they want you, are thinking about you and so on! No excuses! Good luck!
2006-11-09 03:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a call. Say something like, "Was thinking about cha and decided to give you a call to see how you are doing." Or something to that effect. If he acts aloof and evasive, then maybe's he's not really interested. If he acts like he's really glad you called, then it could be that he didn't quite know how to call and set up another date time, and was hoping you would be brave enough to call him. Some guys are like that. See how it goes. If you are new to the dating game, then sample the waters to see what's out there anyway before getting too involved with one person only. Good luck.
2006-11-09 03:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me if you guys spoke 3 times already, that he's generally interested. I know I wouldn't talk to someone more than once if I didn't like them. Perhaps he's just really tied up at the moment so give him another day or 2 and then give him a buzz just to see how he's doing. At this point, you're friends, right? A "Friendly" telephone call won't hurt. =)
2006-11-09 03:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just as scared as you are Imean he might be working but take my advice don't wait to long to call because he's gonna think you are not liking him anymore. Then he will lose interest in the whole you and him thing.
2006-11-09 03:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by totalltobesosexylovemeorhatemeok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it was me i would have called already and rearlly that is not right....lol.....(i give great advice but can't follow my own) as you have done great so far, but its thurs, i would call if its been three dayz and if he do'nt answer jsut leave a message saying call me back wondering if you wanted to cash in that rain check and go out this week end call me back, click, if he answers well just say the same thing
2006-11-09 03:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by dom_parnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did he say he was going to call when he got home? Id wait a day or two after he was suppose to be home. he might have gotten caught up in work or even traveling..
2006-11-09 03:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by miss53175 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just call him. i always really liked it when women showed interest in me. he'll like it too. but be cool about it though. make a joke. say " i just wanted to see if you brought me anything back from your trip, ha ha ". if he's cool, he'll be cool. if he's a jerk and acts like youre bothering him, then he suck and you dont need him. good luck sweetie
2006-11-09 03:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him
it is better to know...than not know..
if hes not interested
call me
i'm good at treating women like little princesses in flowery dresses. LOL. 4real, lets hook up!
2006-11-09 03:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by whenrainbowscry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋