my grandma died yesterday while my dad was rubbing her back. i wasnt there only because i live about 2 hrs away and i dont have a car to get there. Her funeral is today and my dad didnt tell me until today. It was at 11:00. i was upset not only because she passed away but my dad never called me to let me know when the funeral was. Should I let it go? i mean I missed my own grandmas funeral because he didnt call me. How should I feel?
2006-11-09 03:43:19 · 10 answers · asked by acoats2006 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thats weird...usually a funeral is 3 days after death to give family time to make arrangements, travel, etc.
and he was with her when she died? are you satisfied she died naturally?
if so, you have no choice but to forgive your dad of his insensitivity...he may have been so grief stricken he forgot about calling...usually someone not so close calls and lets everyone know whats up
sorry about your grandma...just because you missed the funeral doesn't mean you can't go to the cemetery and say goodbye to her
2006-11-09 03:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a rough time for you and your family and i am very sorry. Just give it some time to let you all grieve for a while, when the appropriate time comes, sit your dad down and tell him how you feel. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your dad, but my guess is that he is just uncaring as to how you feel or he is so upset about it that he forgot to call you. either way he should have let you know as soon as possible. It may even be the fact that because you are a grandchild that he feels like you should have been there too. After all it is only a two hour drive. I've driven 1300 miles to be with my grandma when she passed.
2006-11-09 03:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Condolences for your loss. How sad that your Dad did not let you know anything. It is not all important to attend a loved ones funeral. you can always visit your grandmas grave as and when you can. Have a chat with your Dad and see what he has to say about not contacting you. Grief affects people in different ways, perhaps he thought he was saving you the upset of attending a funeral. Have a chat with him and see what he has to say, then pop and see your grandma and pay your respects to her on a one to one basis.
2006-11-09 04:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by PHILIP C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be upset. I know how it is to loose someone... not just anyone but your grandmom. You should tell ya dad how u feel. He was wrong and he should have come to get u so that u can go to the funeral sense he knew that you had no way to get there. I'm sorry about your lose. I hope you make the right choice and your grandmom will forgive you and remeber she's in a better place.
2006-11-09 03:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about the loss of your grandmother. If that happened to me I'd be extremely upset with my father for not letting me know immediately. But if it was his mom he was probably really upset and perhaps in shock over the whole situation so try to be understanding about his feelings too. After you two have gone through some grieving you may want to talk calmly to him about this so it doesn't become a wedge between you two.
2006-11-09 03:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your dad know how you feel. I am sure your grandma knows that you wanted to be there but couldn't. If you are feeling that upset about it, take some time for yourself and your grandma. Whatever you say in your heart she will hear, you could say your goodbye to her in private.
2006-11-09 05:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let your dad know that you didnt appreciate him not telling you that the funeral was today and that your upset.
2006-11-09 04:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your father how you feel because you missed your grandmother's funeral! You have every right to be upset, because your father ought to be ashamed of himself! You're family and blood's thicker than water!
2006-11-09 05:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She died yesterday and the funeral is today? WTF. Whats with the rush? It sounds like he doesn't want you there. Very sorry for your loss dear. You need to express your displeasure to your father, don't hold back.
2006-11-09 03:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell that man how you feel!!!! she was your flesh and blood to,thats pretty harsh to call you late minute : / maybe you should stress that your hurting over her passing. don't let it go til you let all your emotions out.
2006-11-09 03:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by anyways_fukitol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋