I need advice/an opinion. When I first started high school I lost two people of whom I was very close to. I became very depressed. I started to refuse to go to school on-and-off regularly. It was the biggest mistake of my life. this carried on for two years. No-one helped me. my parents then sent me to a private schoo, and lied to the head tecaher saying that I wasn't behind in my schholwork..when I was..seriously behind.... I found I couldn't keep up with the work..by the end of the year I couldn't cope anymore and because I didn't know what to do...refused to go to school altogether.(this was the end of my third year in high school) I was then at home with 3 measly hours of home tuition in only Englah and art....for the next 2 years. I got G grades in my GCSEs (apart from English) what I need to know is.....when I was at the end of my 3rd year and then went to ahve home tuition...how could I have fixed the situation then/ what could I have done? I didn't have a clue how I could have caught up/what I should have done to fix the situation at this point. WHAT SHOULD I HAVE DONE BACK THEN? HOW COULD I HAVE FIXED THINGS? PLEASE HELP AS THIS IS IMPORTANT TO ME. Could I somehow have caught up if my parents had been able to arrange proper home education/tuition for me?(starting again with year7/first high school year work) and then taking 5 years to catch up before I sat my GCSEs?(so I would have been taking my GCSEs about now) or would this not have worked? If not...then why?
also...how could this home education have been arranged/organised?? Since my parents wouldn't have had a clue how to structure this?
Can anyone provide me with any answers? please don't say that it doesn't matter anymore...because it really does to me...and it would help me to sort my head out if I knew the answers to these things.
I live in England
2006-11-09 03:43:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
Go back to college and do your GCSE's. If it's what you really want the option is there for you!
2006-11-09 03:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by s4ucym1nx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The things that should have been done can still be done.
Study. That's it. Study to learn. Figure out where you are at in math by taking a placement test. Get the appropriate level math text book and start at the beginning. Work out a minimum of 30 equations every day and check them with an answer key -- if they are incorrect then you know that you need to do it again -- redo the equations until you understand how to get all of the right answers.
Write a full page essay every day. Write about things that are interesting and worthwhile. Ask someone to check your writing and mark it for structure problems and grammatical and spelling mistakes. Rewrite it until it is perfect. The practice of rewriting is good for you -- it will make you a stronger writer. Your message will be more clear.
Get books. Find the best books from the past many years. Read novels by G. A. Henty and learn about history through historical fiction. Read autobiographies of famous people in history. Read science texts that were written by the scientists themselves. Learn about inventions by reading books written by the inventors.
There are so many things that you can do now. You can't fix the past but you can fix today and set out a plan and goals for tomorrow. Study to learn.
Learning never ends -- as long as you have a mind to think you can learn.
2006-11-09 04:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Barb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, when you lost the two close to you you were depressed. You should have had help then - with counselling and support then the later events may never have happened. It appears that you have been let down throughout - Why didn't your private school realise you were struggling and offer extra support and tuition? Our local school offers support in school holidays for pupils to catch up. You ask what you could have done to put things right... You were a child and not responsible to put things right, this was up to others. You were depressed and this makes it even harder for an individual to right things. You need now to look at now. There are alternatives ... courses over the Internet, The Open University or work based training. I hope you are able to move on and to reach your full potential. Good luck.
2006-11-09 04:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way you could have fixed things back then would have been to be honest with the people around you as to how you were feeling and how you were doing and, instead of skipping school, to let them help you as much as they could. Schools understand that young people do go through traumas and they are able to support pupils that are in difficult situations.
Your parents could have got all the help in the world but, unless you were willing to BE helped then it wouldn't have made any difference.
It's not all lost, you can do GCSE's at any age, your local college should be able to give you a list of courses they run. In fact if you can do that now, it shows determination and self-discipline, all good things for potential employers.
Good luck!
2006-11-09 04:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by junkmonkey1983 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fix the past, unfortunately. So what could've been different then won't change the now. I'm in USA so I don't know how things work there. Here, you could go to a local college, enroll in the Free GED program and in a short time have a diploma in hand. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-09 03:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by nine kids 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
back then ? you cannot go to 'back then'. all you can do is intellectualise about it - what could have been, should have been etc and probably find or want someone to blame. believe me, there are not many people out there that wouldn't change something if they had their time over again. if an education is important to what you want to do in life go and get one - there're are plenty of options. otherwise just do you best to move on (i know it might sound easier than it is) and do your best to live in the 'now'. it really is never too late !
2006-11-09 17:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by robsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back then, you should have told at least one trusted adult about your feelings and how it was impacting your school work.
Wouldn't it be more productive and helpful to figure out what you can/should do in the NOW? A huge part of the problem is that you are wallowing in the past instead of moving forward and figuring out what you can do to make things good for yourself moving forward with your life.
2006-11-09 03:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋