we fight constantly about stupid stuff!! and its so annoying! i hate fighing with her!!! any help?
2006-11-09 03:34:37 · 14 answers · asked by chris'sbaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1. If she asks you to do some kind of work around the house (chores, etc.), don't argue - just DO it. Your other option is to get a job and find elsewhere to live.
2. If she complains about your grades and you're honestly trying your best, explain to her that you're trying and will cut out more and more recreational stuff to focus on them. repeat until you have no free time left - then she has nothing left to complain about.
3. If she complains about your grades and you are NOT trying your best, apologize to her and follow the steps in #2 - repeat until grades improve and she'll stop complaining.
4. If she's spouting off on completely irrational stuff, ignore or avoid confrontation until she changes subjects.
5. If she's criticising your manner of appearance, offer to compromise and discuss options; ask to keep some things in your wardrobe in exchange for concessions to her.
6. During a quiet moment, tell her that YOU LOVE HER and that you wish to not fight with her unless it's a major issue; mean it and remind her of it the next time she raises her voice. If she's not making an effort, tell her that ONE OF YOU needs to be the adult - YOU, if necessary.
7. Lead by example - see #6. If your mom can't be mature, you'll have to be; in the worst case scenario, one of you needs to be the parent - at least until you move out.
Good luck.
2006-11-09 03:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give us your age. Actually age seems to be the biggest cause of fighting among parents and children. Until you are older, you may disagree with many things your mother says. Just try this: Don't raise your voice even if she yells. Silence is Golden means that it's easier to be quiet than to try to stop an argument where both parties are screaming and yelling. Try it next time she starts a fight. If you just stand there quietly while she yells, she may just stop , it takes 2 to have a fight!
2006-11-09 03:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by breaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to give in to the urge to argue. I know it's hard because some people can really push your buttons, but when they do- the choice is yours to go along and participate in the wasted effort of bickering or grin and bear it...Not giving in when someone picks a fight with you...smiling and walking away from the situation...will make them look harder at their own faults and make them feel small and stupid for bickering all the time.
2006-11-09 03:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it would help if you and your mom just sit down and talk, go out to dinner or the park or something just the two of you and discuss why you fight all the time. it could an age difference and different views on the same subject or that you two are so much alike that you fight all the time. my mom and i are so alike we use to fight all the time but we worked it out. talking helps
2006-11-09 03:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by rocky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother and see what the both of you can do to work out your differences! I know the both of you are always bumping heads, but try to put your best foot forward! If your mother doesn't want to work anything out with you, let it go! It may be difficult, but at least you gave it your best shot!
2006-11-09 05:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind, and over look things said that make you angery. It takes two too argue, so be positive instead of negative. In you converstions try saying something nice, something possitive, walk away if you can say yes mom your right even if she is wrong.
2006-11-09 03:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Barrett m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an activity that will keep both of you silent. Paint, ice-skate. Find something you have in common. One of you'll have to have more patience with the other. Be tolerant. Some people you can't change. I know.
2006-11-09 03:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you think that you should be nice to one another and stop with all the petty arguing...She is your mom but she can be your best freind too... Go shopping or do something you both like
2006-11-09 03:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand that she loves you and needs what's nice for you regardless of in case you do not agree. understand that she has some understanding which you do not in basic terms through fact of her adventure for one. every time you're approximately to disagree or argue, provide up and think of for a 2d earlier you react. understand that she isn't determining for you (even interior the case the place you're able to desire to obey) through fact you have your opinion that with any luck you have made with out prejudice. you do not could agree. you're able to desire to admire your mom's opinion.
2016-11-23 12:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hate fighting with her and find it so annoying, then why do you do it? She is what she is and perhaps cannot change. Can you?
2006-11-09 03:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋