I look forward to hearing from / seeing my bf every day. but when i do, he keeps having a problem with something, i try and tell him anything and the first thing he thinks of is that i've had kisses with, or had sex with another guy. i told him, my sister wants me to live with her (I said no to her!!) but he was upset and thought i'd do it anyway, no matter what i said. for some reason i feel down after i've seen him. it's making me pull back and sometimes i get a sinking feeling, like something bad might happen tonight. sometimes it can be wonderful too, but i never know when. so it's like a rollercoaster.
2006-11-09 03:21:33 · 14 answers · asked by sleepyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LIKE I HAVE BEEN STATING IN MOST OF YOUR QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR BOYFRIEND. YOU ARE GETTING GOOD ADVICE, BUT YOU INSIST ON STAYING WITH ABUSE. YOU SEEM TO ASK THE SAME TYPE OF QUESTIONS. ARE YOU WAITING FOR AN ANSWER YOU WANT TO HEAR SO YOU CAN GO ON AND FEEL BETTER, OR SHOULD YOU HEED ALL THE GOOD ADVICE YOU HAVE BEEN RECEIVING?
2006-11-12 22:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by brxny2000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is mad jealous, and even if you don't ever do anyhting to betray him, he'll find something to fault you for. I know guys llike this. They have deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and insecurity that probably only therapy (and maybe some anti-depressants) can get them over. You'll probably never be able to make him happy and comfortable in the relationship, since he seems desperate to convince himself that you're always looking for someone/something better. You'd be better off getting out now, no matter how wonderful he can be sometimes. You're in store for a lot of emotional abuse!
2006-11-09 11:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually if he makes you feel that down then you should probably get out of the relationship. You should be happy with the one you are datin. They should make you love life not feel depressed all the time. Plus, he shouldn't get mad at you for your sister asking you to move in. And if you want to say yes, don't just say no to make him happy. Live your LIFE!
2006-11-09 11:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of the time when guys start acting like this saying your doing things more then likely he has been doing them behind your back, now I do not want to paint a picture, but you need to sit down with him and talk with him and find out why he is saying this to you, find out why he is having trust issues with you, as well sounds like a control thing as well. Good Luck!
2006-11-09 11:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a trust issue, and may be too controlling. he has a problem, and it is not going to get better, it is going to get worst. So you need to get out of this relationship, you will never be happy with him. You are at a point in your life, you need to be happy. and only you can do this for yourself, I hope you can leave him. It may be hard, but it will be for your own good!
2006-11-09 11:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is sounds like he does have a problem. The best thing for you might to break up with him. If he does not have any more trust in you then that then he does not deserve to have you.
2006-11-09 11:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Smoke Eater 512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its time to take a step back and look at how often you are unhappy in the relationship...it the bad outweights the good you may want to reevaluate the relationship.
2006-11-09 11:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to walk away and find someone new. A relationship should make you happy, you sound anything but that!
2006-11-09 11:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to those rollercoaster relationships, the best thing to do is to just get off that rollercoaster. easier said than done. you'll get off when you get tired of riding.
2006-11-09 11:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by hersheekysses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if being w/someone makes U feel down... U don't need 2b around that person.... seems like he is not listening 2U.... U are allowing this person 2control U.... some would say that this is an abusive relationship.... don't let him steal Ur joy....
2006-11-09 11:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋