Why do people think its so easy to ask someone how they feel about one anouther and to tell them how much they like the other person? Especially if they are really good friends and can't stand rejection.
2006-11-09 03:15:36 · 18 answers · asked by Katie M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But people are always like "Tell him/her!" But its really hard to say and u dont want to ruin a friendship!
2006-11-09 03:18:16 · update #1
I used to have that problem, but then the woman I loved died the night after I finally told her (NOT KIDDING). And she told me she loved me too. I vowed I would never love another woman (so now I'm gay-I was bisexual before-but I still sleep with tom-boy lesbians-whatever that makes me...stupid american black-and-white sexual definitions).
Anyway, I really am not kidding about any of this. The girl died leaving my house the very night I told her. I still can't get over it.
I never hestitate to tell people I love them, you never know when it might be your last chance, and if anything I only wish I had told her the day I meet her ('cause I knew then) and everyday after!
2006-11-09 03:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never easy and everyone fears rejection...Being good friends should lighten the blow a bit though...What you have to figure out is exactly what you have to lose/gain by letting your true feelings be known. Recently I had to tell my best friend of 20+ years that I would not date him or ever consider him for any kind of relationship other than friendship...he didn't take it well...so One is let to wonder if he were ever truly my friend at all or if he was simply motivated to act as such in hopes of becoming a couple...His actions since the day I told him no- have been those of someone who never felt the true bonds of friendship to begin with. Be careful what you wish for...
2006-11-09 11:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know why people have such a difficult time with rejection. It doesn't mean the end of the world. No one is going to be hospitalized because of it. You don't come down with a fatal disease because someone says no. In fact, the very worst that could happen is that they say no. But so many potential relationships never happen because some hopeless whiner is afraid of the word 'no.' Get over it. We can't have everything we want. The word will slap us in the face from time to time. But what if the answer is 'yes?' You will never know if you don't ask.
2006-11-09 11:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, a lot of times, if you are around a person, many times, you can learn, and you get an idea that they do have some feelings for you. That is why I tell a person, be friends for a while, then you get to know a person. Then you have some idea where their head is at. and then you can ask them. If you are not comfortable, do not say anything!
2006-11-09 11:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever see penguins on an iceberg. The options are to stay there and die of the cold and hunger or jump off and risk being eaten by a shark. They jump off because that's the only think to do. Take life by the scruff of the neck. Rejection - you will laugh at it in a few weeks - No knowing stays with you.
2006-11-09 11:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mark V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH!!!
Everytime I ask about talking to some one they say,
'Grow up'
'Get a life'
But it's hard especially to get rejection from the one person you want approval from the most. People forget what it's like.
Especaially in a society where if you show any emotion they are ready to stab you in the weak spot you've exposed to the world thats why i'm so afraid. Maybe I should talk to the person I want to talk to.
2006-11-09 11:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard and you don't have to tell him if you don't really want to. But after awhile the pain of not knowing what could be with this guy will be greater than the pain of facing possible rejection. Maybe you're just not to that point yet.
2006-11-09 11:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes with maturity. As you get older you gain more confidence in yourself and hopefully have your own self-esteem. Rejection is never nice, but you have to understand that not everyone is going to be attracted to you, just the same way you are not going to be attracted to everyone that likes you. But it's a lot easier to ask and know..than to sit around wondering and anguishing. Bigger hurt in the end if you don't ask earlier on.
2006-11-09 11:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy for you or anyone to express how they feel about someone for fear of rejection. if you and this person are friends but you have strong feelings for them let them know. if you are rejected that is their lost not yours. you are a unique individual created by God. and God will find someone for you that shares those feelings.
2006-11-09 11:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have to understand that rejection is an option, but a life lived in fear is a life half-lived
2006-11-09 11:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋