I only have 1 sister. She is going to get married in dec. of 2007. We are in Canada and her fiancee lives in New York but he is from Africa. He wants to get married in Africa and she has agreed. I'm dissapointed cause she is my only sibling and I want to be there at her wedding but being thats its going to be in Africa there is no way I can afford to attend. I would love for her to get married here in Canada or atleast somewhere reasonable that would make it possible for me to attend.
2006-11-09 02:53:11 · 24 answers · asked by tdashnay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why can't you take out a loan from the bank and pay for a ticket?
2006-11-09 02:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Katie M 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't know if the word disappointed is the right word to express what you are saying. Disappointment means that someone has let you down or did not meet certain expectations. What you may be feeling is left-out because it appears that you have no possible way of attending the wedding. I'm sure you love your sister and would love to be in her wedding but you must still be happy for her. Maybe a compromise can be reached: You can offer to pay for a small ceremony locally, or organize other relatives that also want to attend and pool funds to pay for the local ceremony. I really hope everything works out for you and your sister.
2006-11-09 03:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT take a loan out for this trip. It's a great way to get into a lot of financial trouble. If you can't afford it, then participate some other way, like throw her a bridal shower or something. See if it's possible if she could broadcast the ceremony live over the internet. Make sure someone films it, so you can watch it later. I totally understand why you're dissapointed -- you want to be there on her big day. But in the end, it's up to her. Good luck.
2006-11-09 03:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why a wedding could not take place in both places so you & other family members can participate.
One bride just had her ceremony where her new home & friends are. Then she had the reception 3 hours away, where her family is located. Before the festivities started, they had a ring ceremony which made everyone feel like they got to participate in the wedding.
2006-11-09 05:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having 2 ceremonies is a good idea for people especially if they come from different backgrounds or have family elsewhere. You should never express your dissapointment. This is YOUR SISTER'S WEDDING not yours. Perhaps a better course would be to hint at having a small celebration in Canada/New York.
2006-11-09 03:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advise would be to talk to her about having a separate event (party, reception, mock wedding) somewhere all family members can attend. You are more than likely no the only one have a hard time accepting the fact that you are not going to be apart of their special day.
Or talk with other family member and have a reception for them (your sister and her fiance). As her sister you can host it and that way the family can attend and feel like they had their change to give the happy couple their blessings.
:)
2006-11-09 03:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by alysiallen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be disappointed, but unfortunately there is nothing you can do to change it. Suggest to her that she might want to have a reception here in the states so family and friends that are not able to attend can wish her well. If she can't afford a big party or reception, suggest a smaller get together maybe even "pot-luck" so people can give their good tidings.
2006-11-09 05:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. We've been taught that weddings are essentially a family affair. With hers being so far away from her family, it's understandably a let down. Plus, it would seem that there is a part of her life that is no longer a part of yours.
Unfortunately, you can never expect people to do the things you thought they were going to do in their lifetime. This is just proof that things don't always go according to tradition.
Keep ya head up.
2006-11-09 03:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Hacksaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable of you to be disappointed, but it's HER marriage; she and her fiancé make the final decision, and it would be proper of you to support it whether or not you agree with it.
My brother (the only sibling) got married twice now, and I couldn't attend either wedding (he lives 6,000 miles away). That's life sometimes, grin and bear it. Be happy for your sis.
2006-11-09 04:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you suggest them having a small ceremony here with a reception for family and friends, after they get back from Africa?
2006-11-09 02:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situtation. If they are going to be back in the states and not live permenantly in Africa then when they get back have a ceremony in your area.
2006-11-09 05:06:43 · answer #11 · answered by roeskats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋