is it cheating?

Question

if u have a friend for years and the two of u have always had sex but r just friends.now u both have some one .u still find each other very sexy and are turned on just to be around them,u dont want to cheat or hurt anyone .so if u just watch each other pleasure themself while doing the same ,is this cheating

Answer 1

If you are still that turned on by each other you either need to NOT be alone with them and keep your current beau's or do your current beau's the favor of dumping them and letting them move on. Yes, it is cheating and it's not fare to your significant (or in this case not significant) others.

Answer 2

Why don't you and your friend just get together and cut the other two people out of the equation. You are really good friends and know things about each other, you guys are attracted to each other, especially when you are around each other. You need to explore your true feelings with this man, you might not have cheated physically yet, but you will if you still get turned on by this man. As for your question no you didn't but you wouldn't want your current man to watch his friend fondle her self as he watched and did the same.

Answer 3

Yes, in a sense it is cheating. while it is nice for you both to be turned on by one another, its not good for you because both of you are in a relationship. Also if you and you "friend" happen to be sexually attracted to each other, then neither one of you should be in a committed relationship. It may not be hurting you becuz u are sexually attracted to your "friend with benifits", but in the long run if the person you are with happen to find out that you are doing what you do, then it could hurt him. you dont want to jepordize a good relationship on the count of sexual fantasies or pleasures. What about your friend's girlfriend? She may be crushed that he is not focusing on her. what if she finds out about you, then what? It can be something really messy. Think about it this way: what if you and your man and your friend and his girl happen to break up and you and your friend will try to have a relationship together: it wouldnt work becuase both of you are only into each other sexually. you cant base a solid relationship on sex becuase you may not be compatible on other levels. You have to think about that. How will you be able to stay in a loving relationship if all you think about is this other dude? Would you want your man to be thinking about other beeches while he doin you? Hell no. You need to think about if you want to be in a relationship or you want to be spontainously ***** this dude and when you need emotional support you wont get it becuase its only based on SEX.
If you dont want to cheat, tell homeboy, listen man, im with someone else right now, and i feel otherwise, i 'll tell you, but we have to stop this shiit.
He'll understand and if he dont, then it was only about one thing.
good luck,

Answer 4

All I can say is put yourself in the other girls shoes if you found out you KNOW you wouldn't want your boyfriend looking at another woman and especially not like that. . . I know I would end the realationship if I found out my botfriend was doing something that intiment with another women if ya'll are like that with each other you two shjould be together instead of taking the chance of hurting other people. . . Yeah in a since it is cheating. . .I could not do that to my boyfriend

Answer 5

Of course it is. Just ask yourself if you would be comfortable with your partner doing the same? Or, if you can't tell your partner about it, its probably wrong. A relationship is not all about sex. At some point the sex will be just sex, and you will want to be with them for other reasons. Basing a relationship on sex will never work.

Answer 6

i would say it is because you are allowing yourself to be pleasured and you are allowing someone else to see you in a way that only the person you are with should see. If you are going steady or if you are serious about somebody then that person is the only one you should allow to see you entirly. That is what strengthens your relationship because you are each others soul mate and no one elses. Plus you are willingly allowing someone to view you when you are with someone else so that makes it cheating.

Answer 7

Well lets think about this...
If your boyfriend did this with another girl, how would you feel?

I personally would be pissed and upset beyond words and would leave him. And I would actually consider the way you're thinking as a form of cheating in itself, you must not feel to strongly for your boyfriend.

Answer 8

yes it is. doing anything dealing with sex or anything that will lead into sex is cheating. if your man was doing the same thing would you be pissed off? would you he cheated on you?

why haven't you and your f*ck buddy gotten together? if you two have such passion for each other in bed, maybe you will have that same passion out of bed.

Answer 9

I'm gonna say yes. If my gf was naked in front of someone else, watching them pleasure themselves, i would not like it at all. You might as well be having sex. Definitely cheating in my eyes.

Answer 10

Is it a secret? Something you don't want your other to find out about? Then it's cheating. If you can not tell or will not tell the other, then there's something wrong about it and probably shouldn't be done.