i broke up with my ex because he wasnt paying me enough attention. I dont think i really ever wanted him to really go away, i just wanted him to take notice me :( i know really stupid!
But now he is back with his ex gf :( and i didnt even get a change to make things right again, i ask him wheter he would reconsider, but he wont :( The though of them 2 together makes me sick :( i want him back, she cheated on him and she got a second change, why wont he give me one????
i want him back!!! please help me???? i know we broke up and that i have to get over him.... but i dont want to! i want him back, so will you please tell me how i can make him realise what he is missing???? I cant eat and feel sick, i have lost a couple of pounds since!!!
i just want him back, but how can i make him see???
please dont tell me i have to give up, i know i have too, but i just feel so sick, so i though if i could kinde still have some hope, i would feel better then that there wasnt any at all :(
2006-11-09 02:40:04 · 16 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Simone, (beautiful name!) "If there is a will there is a way"! "Giving up" is the simplest of answers. So if you want to win him back ,then, you have to get busy with it! Stay a constant in his life. What ever it takes! Someone who shows up on a daily bases, eventually, becomes a routine, and when that doesn't happen,' the norm isn't normal'! You have to be postive! You have to go forward, living your life and this means seeing other people. Nine times out of ten, seeing with you with another guy will at least cause that 'instinct' we all have, to take notice to you in that special way.Never let yourself go, not even for a quick trip to Walmart. You would be surprised how many times, those quick trips cost us because we think "we can get by with it'! :) When you see him, make a point to be nice, (I know it will hurt if she is with him), but rest assure while you feel hurt seeing them together, she is feeling threatened because you are looking good and being nice. Time! Everything on the planet is about timing. So don't get impatient. There is no guarantee's that you and him will get back together, but at least their is chance, because you are still working on it. Eventually he will see how much he means to you, by being this "wonderful special person" that didn't want to give up on the two of you! That my friend, is very impressive even to men! So get out there and do your thing! Go forward, never look back, and open doors when opportunity knocks! Number one mistake people make, not opening a door and walking threw! Here's to "the two of you becoming "one' again"! :)
2006-11-09 03:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want anybody to tell you just things you want to hear. When the man went back so quickly to his ex, is it not clear in your mind that there was no love from his side? If you want him back now, ask your self some questions as to why?
- Is it because he is with another woman?
- Can such love be strong and true in future?
- DOES HE LOVE ME?
- Will the relationship be normal and close if he returns?
If you honestly answer the above questions, the answers should give you enough guidance to make your own decision rather than get opinions from others. The key is - BE HONEST TO YOURSELF.
As for your not being able to eat and sleep is because you have felt jilted by his actions and refusal to reconsider.
And finally, a word of advice - you dont just break off with your partner because he does not give you attention or he does or does not this or that. What you do when you are unhappy in a relationship is to speak to each other about what is bothering you. Try to resolve problems by discussion. But breaking off to get your way is frivolous behaviour. Sorry you dont want frankness I believe from what you have said above, but I hate giving any pep talk. Good luck anyway!
2006-11-09 02:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really watch the movie Swingers (Title is not what it sounds like) It is a movie from I think the 80's or 90's and it is about a guy who movies to California and breaks up with his girlfriend before he moves away. It shows what he goes through with his pain as his ex found someone else. It is a really good movie and it might help you.
You sound very caring and I think as you said in your question "please don't tell me i have to give up, i know i have too" You already have your answer.
It sounds like you have a fear of being alone. As I was married at a young age and 10 years later dealing with a divorce. People never realize how hard and scary it is to actually be alone and fend for yourself in this world.
2006-11-09 02:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Itry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you that he is back with his ex to make you jealous? I obvioulsy don't know if that is the case, but it is a good possibility.
You need to stop acting so desperate, and start moving on with your life. Maybe if you meet someone else, he will have the same feelings you do about seeing you with another guy! If not, than at least you won't be lonely and sad! Good luck to you!
2006-11-09 03:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wasn't treating you like a queen and giving you attention, what do you want him back for? You deserve better. Also we all know it hurts to lose someone and be alone, we've all been there. Things will get better over time, it's hard to believe right now, but it will...Sorry & Good Luck
2006-11-09 02:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by bad1bud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wake up... You left him for a really good reason... No the natural feelings of jealousy are kicking in...
Move on! Find someone who respects you, love you, cares for you and worships you... Then you won't be looking over your shoulder at your a** of an ex...
Once you have established yourself as an individual again, you will forget that he was once part of you.
2006-11-09 02:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have really given it to him if he made that radical a change.
You made your situation and now you don't want to deal with it.
While his other gf may have cheated on him, you've shown an incredible amount of immaturity. Your note reads like your still stomping your feet and saying "I want, I want."
Grow up and maybe you'll be more attractive to him.
2006-11-09 02:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you really really want it. then i think you at least should give it another try. try talk to him face to face. things are a lot different when you talk in person rather than on the phone or online b/c there might be someone else there giving him pressure not to tell his true feelings.
good luck!
2006-11-09 02:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by little asian gal in cresent city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, just get a new man, if yall do hook back up you going to be walking backwards and u need to be going fowards. Let go and Get a new man! Because if u keep at the rate your going your going to turn into a stalker.
2006-11-09 02:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok! you should first try to talk to him without his gf around! like on the phone and talk things though! if theat doesnt work, then try to talk to him online or something!he should figure out that your a really good person and will want to go back out with you!
2006-11-09 02:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by iluvya38671 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋