I've been seeing this guy for about 2 years now, its not a relationship but we get along very well. We go out for dinner and some times to the movies,the sex is over the top,I have no complants there.The only thing is when ever I ask him where is this going he says he don't no. He's not sure about what he wants. what do you think is going on with that. We have a great chemistrey and we do have feelings for ecah other , but I wonder what type of feelings does he really have towards me.
2006-11-09 02:31:46 · 18 answers · asked by BASHFUL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Instead of wondering how he is feeling, have you considered how you are feeling? Is this non-committal relationship satisfying you? Do you want it to go somewhere? You need to decide what you want and then talk to him about it. Accept no less than what makes you happy. If you want to be in a committed relationship with marriage or cohabitation in the future you have to demand it. If he doesn't want that, he's not worth your time. Of course, staying with this guy can sustain you in the short term, so carry on until you are no longer happy.
2006-11-09 02:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tara P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cuz basically he only wants you for sex.. if you have seeing someone for that long and no committment.. There is something wrong. And he says he don't know. Then that's a big RED FLAG, let him go. Until he is ready to committ, move on lady. If you don't feel feeling from him, most likely he don't. Sorry, it's a sad world..
Goodluck and go find the man that is right for you that will give you all you deserve.. trust me.. it's not him right now..
2006-11-09 02:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously get to the bottom of things and talked to him...jus tell him how u feel...my friend had this problem..now i'm not sayin this is happening to u but it could i would be careful..but anyway...my friend was good wit this guy they went out to dinner and they talked like all the time...she had MAJOR feelings for him...but when she brought up the boyfriend girlfriend thing he said he didn't know if he wanted to be with her...that was a BIG shocker bc he told her that he liked her...well...one day she went to his car after school and he was having sex with another GIRL!! But my friend was devestated i was jus givin u an example of what she went through...i would question him he could have someone else and us using u as a sideline incase somethin goes wrong wit the other...i dunno or he could be scared....he could have had problems b4 and he doesn't want it to happen again..u might want to figure things out wit him ask him and tell him how u feel....Good Luck!
2006-11-09 02:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by blnchrst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of the AA phrase KISS. Keep It Simple Stupid. This guy is just enjoying your company and all its rewards, There is NO COMMITMENT, despite you having over the top sex. His not knowing where he is going is incative of your relationship. The chemistry you are "feeling" is called HORMORES and nothing more to him. The feelings you are experiencing are called SEXUAL FEELINGS and not marriage feelings. If you want to know where your relationship really is, ASK HIM PLAINLY. No pussyfooting, just simple, staright to the point. What have you to lose? Nothing, because what you have is what anyone can have with anyone else, nothing special. What makes it special? Knowing you are his, and he is yours. Thats special and priceless! The rest is common and usual, no matter how many rockets he puts in your pockets. Good luck dear!
2006-11-09 02:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should he feel obligated to make any kind of a commitment to you when you admit yourself that you're just "seeing" him but you're not in a relationship. You're already giving him everything he wants from you (over the top sex) with no strings attached. After all this time, you're probably firmly in his "sex on the side" category. Do you really think his "feelings" are involved?
2006-11-09 02:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to find out is to sit him down and ask him what his view of the future looks like.... Don't make it threatning, take him to dinner, you plan it and you lead the way... Just ask him where he sees the two of you in a year.
2006-11-09 02:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should he have to choose to make a committment with you when you are already dating and having sex with him?
You already give him what he wants and he's free to walk away when he's done, why should he have to think about where the relationship is going?
2006-11-09 02:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like things are going great. Try not to put too much pressure on him and give him time. Just enjoy what you have now and let him come around. Good Luck.
2006-11-09 02:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u are looking for it to be a relationship maybe express that to him but if he still says i don't know then i would take a break from him so he'll realize that he misses you and grows the h e l l up
2006-11-09 02:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
god 2 years if he thought that much of you you wouldnt be asking this question would you? hes just using you and i bet when he calls you go running, have fun with other men and make sure he knows it, if he thinks hes going to loose what you have he may open up
2006-11-09 02:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by BUNNIELOVE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋