he's not in love with me.... so i'm moving on. Am I doing the right thing? In time the "in love" feelings can form, but I feel like I'm wasting my time.
He knows I'm right for him, but sometimes he slips back to his ex, which he knows is wrong for him just because of the things they have been through that we haven't....
2006-11-09 02:31:14 · 21 answers · asked by stress77mulah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with the other posts. you are doing the right thing. The sooner you forget about him and move on, the better for you. You dont need his issues. His ex is most welcome to him. He sounds like a true loser. And I dont mean to insult on your taste in men. Hopefully this experience will make you stronger and wiser. Find a guy with morals and ethics. He deserves to be with you.
2006-11-09 02:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Taurus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to move on and you no it. If he is still going back to his ex after telling you that he loves you, then that's all you need to no. He is not ready for a real relationship yet, he's still stuck on the ex and the only reason why the ex is still going around him its because she knows that he is with you. She does not want him to move on with anyone else. He will realize that she is only playing games with him and then he will see that he let a good woman go. Stay strong and move on Mr right will come along soon.
2006-11-09 10:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So stop thinking with ur heart for a minute and for this situation use ur head. You have answered yourself already, he is not 'in love' w/ you and 'slips' back to his ex...You make it sound as though he accidently went back to her...Obviously he's not in love with you bc he's not over her...and anyone who goes back to their ex or anyone for that matter whether it be for a booty call or for actual feelings is not relationship material for anyone else. Why put yourself through un-needed stress trying to make someone love you when they are too wrapped up in themselves? Why stay being 'in love' with someone when it is only going to cause you more pain when it is not returned and leave you feeling incomplete? Why not deal with the temporary pain now and get over him to find someone else rather then enduring even more pain trying to get him to feel the same and possibly cheating again only to have to try and get over him later on? You need to love yourself first and anyone who allows someone to disrespect and walk all over you like he apparently is not worth ur time or love. You need to stand up for yourself and find happiness on your own w/ the possibility of finding someone else who will treat you right and be 'in love' w/ you once you have healed from this mess. Good luck but please dont take this bs...youre better then this and this guy needs to resolve his own emotions before he can ever be able to handle a relationship...
2006-11-09 10:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you are doing the right thing! Love sucks! In time he may learn to be in love with you, but right now is not a good time. Let him go be with his ex and when he finally realizes that you are what's best for him... you will be so in love with some one else that treats you better...... life's just like that. You need to live and learn.
2006-11-09 10:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are doing a great thing. It should be all about you!!! If he falls back on his ex, then he isn't ready to move on with you. he should have never got in a relationship with you..Sorry i know it sucks. But, be strong and someday you will meet the person that is meant for you!! Since you feel you are wasting your time, you are. Trust your gut instinct and go on it. Goodluck! Don't put yourself to get hurt! It sucks..
2006-11-09 10:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going back to his ex I don't think I would stick around. But, I can tell you that I married my high school sweetheart and that, heart pounding, stomach butterflies feeling, has evolved into a different kind of in love feeling. Love to me doesn't always keep the same feeling. Love can mature with the relationship. But, again, he's going back to his ex...????
2006-11-09 10:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by akb962491 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, move on. You deserve a man who is in love with you. I don't feel the relationship will be lasting if both of you don't feel the same for each other. Don't short change yourself, relationships are hard enough when both partners are in love. Find that man that is right for you.
2006-11-09 10:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got a lot to work on and it's gonna take some time for him to snap out of it. I'm sorry, boo, but you've gotta move on. Stay close to him because you never know, but right now he's not entirely sure of what he wants or needs and you don't deserve to be sticking around, waiting for him to make up his mind.
2006-11-09 10:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I am going through the same thing and I think you should try your hardest to move on. If he really loved you he wouldnt be slipping back to his ex.I know it's hard to forget someone who means so much to you, but you have to try and forget him. You should meet new people. It is good that you are moving on.
2006-11-09 10:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by andre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on...you shouldn't waste your time and what if the "in love" feelings never form or he just stays with his ex no matter how stupid it is? your doing the right thing
2006-11-09 10:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by carissa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋