I'm a nanny for a 7, 5, and 2 year old. The 5 year old goes to preschool so she is home most of the day with me and the 2 year old, and she is SO BOSSY to her little brother! She yells at him when he does something wrong, tells him its time to try and go potty, tells him to come give her hugs, at lunch, if he caughs, she gets out of her chair and starts trying to give him the Himlich (sp?) because she thinks hes choking! She is so bossy to her brother and it drives me nuts! What should I do?
2006-11-09 02:30:37 · 7 answers · asked by Laura 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
The mom stays home 5 days a week and is VERY involved with her kids. The dad is home everynight by 6 and spends lots of time with them as well. The mom is SUPER overprotective though...constantly telling the kids to be careful, not to touch that, don't do this, don't look at that dog or it will bite you...etc.
2006-11-09 02:47:42 · update #1
Please address this issue with the parents. find out how much interaction she gets with her parents and the newborn. This could be a key in why her behavior is bossy and might indicate the parents attitude about the newborn.
Try teaching the child how you do your work and incorporate her into the routines. This might sound weird but she maight be trying to see where she fits in in the family and she might be trying to justify her existence and usefulness to the family.
I have more but will need more information on the home life to be more complete in my answer.
2006-11-09 02:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by En1gma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids at that age act like there parents most of the time. Is the mother bossy too? They pick up the parents actions and then act out, they try it too. If it does not work they give it up if it works they continue.
You need to show her by example how to be nice how not to preach. Also spend time with her in a good way, playing games and with her toys. If she gets bossy to her brother or you, put the games and toys up. You are done and will not paly with her.
Kids act like this to get attention. Negative attention is better than no attention. It works with her parents make sure it does not work with you.
2006-11-09 05:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl the child is simply acting like her mother. if her mother is like this most of the time and treats the children like that most of the time then the child assimilates her/him. there is really nothing you can do except tell the girl to stop that she is not the boss of him here is a web site that might help you keep her busy and way from the 2 yr old. good luck hope i helped.
2006-11-09 07:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by cosita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KIDS THESE DAYS THINK THEY ARE OLDER THAN THE PERSON WHO IS OLDER THAN THEM AND I HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE SAME THING I'M GOING TO TELL YOU WHAT I DO I TAKE THEM INTO THE ROOM AND I TALK TO THEM AND TRY TO GET ALONG WITH HER THAN IF THAT DOESN'T WORK TELL HER THAT YOU ARE GOING TO TELL SOME BODY THAT SHE I AFRAID OF THEN IF THAT DOESN'T WORK TELL HER TO STAND UP IN THE CORNER FOR 5 MIN SHE'LL SETTLE DOWN. GREAT QUESTION
2006-11-10 03:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by tweety baby 4-life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it must be hard to help dicipline other people's kids. Maybe you can talk with the parents on how to deal withthis. Good luck ;)
2006-11-10 17:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and explain who is the boss during the day. It's you. You have to be the adult, be firm, and enforce your own rules. She's only 5, remember.
2006-11-09 02:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by A.C.Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to them
2006-11-11 01:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋