shewants to get married where she currently goes to collage(8 hours away,expects everyone to pack up and go there for the weekend,and my daughter is a flower girl (dress and accories $200) now im suppose to put out over 500 for my neices wedding not counting a gift for wedding or shower??? HELP
2006-11-09 02:22:10 · 17 answers · asked by lisa f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The bride can have the wedding wherever she wants. It's her wedding. Maybe the groom has a special reason for wanting it there. Maybe it is significant because that's where their relationship really blossomed. When you let your daughter be the flower-girl you should have been prepared for the cost. You have no right to complain because it's not your wedding.
If you simply can't afford it you might talk to the bride and delicately explain your situation. She may offer to help or let you off the hook.
2006-11-09 02:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! I have been to two weddings in the last year and one was in DC and the other in Pittsburgh. I think it is more common now a days for people to get married and people to travel to the weddings. It seems they are no longer a one night event. They start with the night before then the day of events, then the wedding and reception and next you are at brunch with the party again. I do not think they should really expect a big gift if people travel. I actually was invited to another wedding that was on a cruise ship for a week!!!!! I would let your niece know that this is A burden on you. If you are not able to handle the big dent for the weekend I would tell her that you are honored but would like to decline having your daughter in the wedding or you could try to find a cheaper dress. I think it is crazy the prices you pay. Sometimes you can find beautiful dresses for little girls after the holiday's or first communions. I actually bought my daughters first communion dress at Sears right after Easter. It only cost $30.00. It was beautiful. Good Luck!
2006-11-09 02:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Itry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you agreed to let your daughter be in the wedding you had to expect that it was going to cost money. Personally being a soon be be bride, a bride can get married anywhere she wants to ..... maybe she is doing it there becasue money is tight and she knows not a lot of people will be able to attend.... I know its a lot of money, but maybe you can tell her that since the traveling is going to be so much, that you would like some help with the flower girl dress, tell her you would like her to pay for it or something.... she has to understand both sides. I paid for the flower girl dresses and bridesmaid dresses because I don't want anyone to break the bank for my wedding and my day. So talk to the bride I am sure she will help you out.
2006-11-09 03:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple can get married wherever they want. Destination weddings are becoming more and more popular... although the couple usually only invites a few people to those. My fiancee and I are getting married in DC because we live here. My family is from all over the US, including SC, OR, WA, GA, AL, etc... so it's not like it would be easy for everyone no matter where we have it.
If you already said yes to your daughter being a flower girl, you should either follow-through, or if you are financially unable, at least talk to the bride about your concerns. I'm sure she didn't intend to upset you by having the wedding someplace that isn't convenient for you.
2006-11-09 03:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by lillielil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride is supposed to be married at a location of her choice. However, she shouldn't "expect" anyone to do anything. I'm sure she would understand if some of the family members did not attend an out-of-town wedding. Send a thoughtful gift.
2006-11-09 04:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can get married anywhere in the world.
The wedding is about the couple joining two family. If you are having a problem with the cost you should not attend. Send the flower girl with another family member for the weekend and you can chill at home.
:)
2006-11-09 04:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by alysiallen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The couple can decide where to get married & these days they sometimes get married far away, even at some exotic location like Hawaii. Guests & attendants should take that into account when accepting the invitation. Now that you have, I don't see how you can get out of it - she's counting on your daughter being there
2006-11-09 02:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it makes sense to get married where you went to college particularly if that is where you met your hubby-to-be.
But she made you pay for the fg stuff before she told you where the wedding would be???
Go to the wedding, she is family.
Obviously, no gifts are needed. You are giving her an over $500 gift by just being there.
2006-11-09 02:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her how financially hard it is going to be on you and that you can't make it because it's 8 hours away. Explain to her how hard it is going to be for everyone to travel that and then find a place to stay. If she is understanding maybe she'll move it closer. If not then tell her that your sorry but you can't make it and send her a nice card. If you do not attend the wedding then you don't have to give a gift.
2006-11-09 02:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mark and Allie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it is to be held where the bride resides but nowadays it is held where the groom resides or anywhere the couple wants. just tell her the sit. and take it from there. I know I appreciated my wedding party telling me the truth ( when they finally did) instead of lying or beating around the bush. I was able to help them financially. Still waiting on the $ I loaned out but hey that's another story and what is family for anyway?
2006-11-11 19:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋