Every one around me having children, including my little sister, and I feel like time is not on my side. I know everyone says I am still young but I feel like this is the time. But, everytime my husband and I talk about it I feel really scared. Is this normal? Will I ever feel like I want to have a child with no doubt?
2006-11-09 02:17:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
if you keep waiting and waiting until you feel secure enough to have a child, you will never have a child. And even still, you won't feel secure after the child is born (and then some). You're always going to think of the what if's, and you know what...... that's going to make you two great parents. I can tell you that once you have that child in your arms, you'll know you did the right thing. (but you'll still be unsure of your parenting skills and nervous as heck) ;-)
2006-11-09 02:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no, the time never seems right, and people will tell you that babies/children cost a fortune but its funny how when you have a baby you make do with what you have and you don't notice a cost.
As long as you are both happy then there is no reason why you shouldn't try as long as its something you both want.
I have 3 little monsters. None of them were planned as such, we decided we wanted another baby and we went with the flow.
I am sure you will be great parents as it sounds like you have already talked it through, and communication is key, so good for you.
Good luck whatever you decide.
2006-11-09 10:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by sardoherty13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children myself.
you may be having doubts cause your not ready yet. It is normal to feel the way you do. Your only 23 take the time to live your life cause when you have kids things change drastically and kids are forever. I was 16 when I had my first baby and if I knew then what I know now I would have waited a long time before having any. I love my children but I would have waited and lived my life a little.
2006-11-09 10:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by tdashnay 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had been married for almost 7 years when we decided to start trying to conceive. I was 32 and he was 34. I was terrified and when it happened after trying for just a little over a month, I thought "Oh my gosh! What have I done? I'm not ready for this!"
My daughter is 3 1/2 months old now and I can't remember what life was like without her! I love her so much and wouldn't trade her for the world. I am glad, however, that we waited to have a baby because I just didn't have enough patience when I was younger. I'm not saying at all that you should wait, but it was just the right thing for us. ;)
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
2006-11-09 10:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by Julie F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. Doubt and fear will always be there but if you and your husband both feel that you want to start a family... it is time. :)
By the way my mom did not begin having children until she was thirty years old. She had three healthy kids. You are not running out of time, but if you feel this is the right time then age should not matter.
Best of luck to both of you. Truly.
2006-11-09 10:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Pepper 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You will never be 100% and you shouldn't have a baby just because everyone else is doing it. Babies are a huge responsibility not a toy to get because it's in style. Maybe if you help out with your sister's baby and get some hands on experience with babies you won't be so worried about it. Being a mom isn't easy but you will get the hang of it. Good luck.
2006-11-09 10:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, there is never a perfect time to have children. Considering your ages, I would highly recommend waiting a few years and enjoying some travel and free time. While early parenthood has it benefits, waiting and having some fun as a couple is something you won't get back until the kids leave. Think about it, first!
2006-11-09 10:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW...you sounds just like me almost.. my hubby and i been talking and thining about this alot...And i am the same way.. yes no yes no yes no .. and the no's are b/c i am not sure what i am doing will i mess this baby up..lol crazy things ... and no i am still all over the place...But i do know alot of people around me who are having babies so i am asking them alot of things (to help me get understand things more) Also try to be around them and the kids so i have a lil idea one what to do..lol i still hope they will be around to help me when it happends so i am not like aaahhh now what ..lol.. but Everyone here with what they are saying is all the things i was told or my ideas going in my mind..like yes we want to have our time more and when baby gets here it will be baby..hhmm so maybe waite.. But we really want a family and have baby time and all the nice things with baby.Also so out baby is in the same ages of the familys babies,..Belive me it crazy but i started a list a bunch of times good things an bad things and the bad are not bad they are just scared ideas in my mind.. so i don't think u are ever ready and that is what alot of my family even is telling me.. alot of them are like so u 2 having kids and we just got married but we have been together for lil over 4 years and lived together for 3 so feels alot longer..lol.so aneyways..We are trying or gave up on it.. we are letting things go wityh the flow they say.. if it happens then good if not then hope it will.. that is how we are going about it ...b/c everyone we know that is trying get mad and depressed and one who are not trying boom there is a baby .lol.. it all kinda drives your mind crazy..I KNOW!~!~!~
hmm idk maybe we will try.. lol.. see there i go agein.. But Good Luck!~!~! I would just say find out as much as u can about babies and see if u feel the same.. (i know me spending time with a few different people with babies changed my out look on a few things) ~
Good Luck.~ :) ~
2006-11-09 11:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by animal lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having Children is a very BIG step, Feeling scared is very normal from what everyone tells me you are never prepared! It just comes naturally! I just turned 34 and I finally feel ready. My husband and I are just starting to talk about.
2006-11-09 10:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by beaner 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I got pregnant, I was scared all through the pregnancy but there is something about holding that new life in your arms that changes all of that. The uncertainty fades away and you take delight in the little child that was born from your love.
2006-11-09 11:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by meoorr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋