2006-11-09 02:09:37 · 41 answers · asked by dawndawndawns 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
this happened with my sister we didn't find out until she turned 17 that she had been suffering with terrible panic attacks.
Me and my mom home schooled her between us and she did really well in the exams.
if you do go down the home tuition route, you can get it free through you local college, there's a law that says you have a right to chose how your child is educated so with a bit of persistence, she doesn't need to miss out on her education.
Is there a possibility that she is being bullied?
2006-11-09 02:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why have you left it for two months before sorting this out?
The longer the girl is away from school the harder she will find it to return to full-time education, and that is not considering the amount of the curriculum she will have missed.
Can I ask did this come out of the blue, or has your daughter had similar problems previously?
You must contact school and talk to your daughter about har refusal to attend - it could be she is finding the work too hard; in which case she will require an IEP; or she has had a serious falling out with her friends, or perhaps she is being bullied.
Only your daughter can answer these questions; but, whatever the reason she needs the support of you and the school to access full time education. This is crucial as, missing out on her education will have profound effects for the rest of her life.
Good luck
2006-11-09 02:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Safety First 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why this is going on. There may be a reasonable explanation. So much goes on in our schools that we as parents are not aware of. There may be a bullying issue, possibly embarrassment over some imagined mistake (which is a BIG deal when you're 15), physical problems(illness) she doesn't know how to handle, etc..... Then again, she may just be trying to assert control over her own life, which is good, but you as her mother ultimately know best. If you are a mom working outside the home, maybe the local truancy officer will help ensure that she reaches school in the morning. It's worth a shot. Good luck.
2006-11-09 02:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by ginarene71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehting quick if i were you, if the authorities find out you'll be sent to prison.Have you attempted to contact the school, ask them whats going on?Sounds like a really big lack of communication here. It could be something like she's embarrased about a learning difficulty, maybe dyslexia? A good friend of mine didn't have that spotted until she went to uni and they realised she was unable to consruct a sentence, so sometimes it can go undetected. Kids are very cruel and if she's struggling she may be being bullied, if i were you i'd really speak to the school, in the mean time maybe you should consider home tutoring because for your own interest you could get into a helluva lot of trouble for this!
2006-11-09 02:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by ebex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the school . Request for work to be sent home for her to do. This is a legal requirement on their behalf. Now set up an appointment with HOY or Student Support Manager, Explain what has happened, These people will understand as I can assure you that your daughter will not be the first case they have had to deal with. EWO may become involved and you can request this. If the school comes up with a plan you must support it. Maybe your daughter can just attend for a few lessons a day. Your daughter must be made aware of the support available to her but she must understand that nothing can happen unless she speaks up. The schools rarely use parenting orders if the parents do everything to support them. I hope she is not being bullied and I do hope she is not just bowing down to peer pressure to skive.
2006-11-09 06:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off why have you let it get to this point. 2 months is a longtime to wait before figuring out what to do. The first thing you need to do is find out why she doesn't want to go. Once you can figure that out (duh) then move on to what are your options. I think if she is that admaent about not going to school I think it would be a mistake to force her into it. First I would talk to the school staff and see if you can work something out- if not either consider switching schools, doing independent study, or homeschooling. if she is having any kind of emtional issues I suggest you get her in to talk with someone. It sounds like you don't have an open communication with your daughter if you can't figure this no brainer out. Take charge. Who is the parent here? Are you just letting her run and have the say in all of this. Yes you can get in trouble for truancy if they find out she isn't in some kind of schooling. Either homeschool her until you can figure things out or get some help from an outside source. I suggest you do something quick before your daughter possibly gets taken away because of neglagence of you not doing anything for 2 months now. Get on the ball lady!!
2006-11-09 03:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be a very difficult situation for you. This may sound trite but have you talked to her about why she doesn't want to attend. Is she being bullied? Is she having difficulties with the work? Are her friends also skipping school? You will need to explore these underlying issues with her.
In the short term you could try offering a reward scheme. A combination of a short term incentive such as extra pocket money for every day she goes into school and a longer term one such as, go to school every day and you'll buy her something she has wanted for a while.
She will need quite a lot of support in the initial stages since she has been away for so long. Contact the school in advance and work with them especially to ensure that the teachers act to encourage her and support her with the work she will need to catch up on.
If she does agree to go pack then give her lots of praise and encouragement. Dont be overly harsh if she misses a day but make sure you talk too her about why straight away before letting it build up again. You may find it helpful to find a trusted 3rd party for her to talk to if there are issues she doesn't want to disclose to you but needs to get of her chest.
2006-11-09 02:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Curiouslad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 15 I would love to have had a mother like you. Well, I didn't. I would have been crucified by her if I just did what your daughter does. The result? I've got a university degree and a well-paid job. Living with my partner and going on holidays 3-4 times a year (abroad!). So when I was 15 I'm glad I didn't have a mother like you!!!! That's what you need to drill into your daughter's head!
2006-11-09 02:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Luvfactory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 16 yr old is doing the same thing. She decided last night to go back to school. She suffers from social anxiety in the worst way. What we did was made life at home really boring. She finally decided that it was time to do something else. Don't reward her behavior, and don't let her have a great time staying home. Also I would suggest taking her to a therapist, she may have unresolved problems bothering her.
2006-11-09 02:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by hooahgoarmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Coronation Street and see how Gail copes when David does the same.
They're having Family Therapy now, and I suppose that might help. But the real reason David Platt went back to school was violence from a neighbourhood bully, so that's not an example to follow
2006-11-09 02:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋