my son had his friend kyle over the other day, and i walked in on them playing doctor around eachothers private areas, if you know what i mean... penises.
he was playing with the syringe/needle toys i gave him for his 12th birthday, and i was pretty startled when i walked in on them.
should i spank him, or should i just take away his video games as punishment?
2006-11-09 02:03:12 · 19 answers · asked by catfish_alomar_jr 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Too old? How can anybody think that someone under 12 should be playing with syringes? All these answerers are sick.
2006-11-10 04:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it and let him know that behavior like that is not appropriate. Don't embarrass him because he may not know what he is doing is not appropriate and kids his age can tend to be embarrassed pretty easily, but let him know that what he is doing is not right. For being an older child I would not wait to talk to him about it. You never know what ma be going on there. It may be that his friend is a victim of sexual abuse and thinks it's normal, but you certainly don't want it continuing because it could scar him psychologically later in life. I'm not sure if an actual punishment is in order, but maybe no playing in his room with the door closed or have the kids play where you can keep an eye on them. I remember as a 5 year old my 13 year babysitter did similar to me and it was never caught and it went on for 2 years. I had no idea what to think, but when I got to be a teenager and it dawned on me what happened I was really afraid and felt so ashamed. I've since moved past that, but I would definatly take some course of action, but be kind and understanding when you do so.
2006-11-09 10:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He,s alittle too old for "spankings". But he's at a very curious age when it comes to sexual knowledge.You better have a talk with him about it being un-approriate to flash your self in front of other kids or any one of that matter.You should monitor the media : being the video games ,T.V programs, and get him invoveld in some after school activities,sports or allow him to go to a park nearby with a big GROUP of friends to play basket ball or something. The more bigger the group of buddies he's with,the less tendency he'll do something like that.
2006-11-09 10:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by ~*meli$sa*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking away his video games will get you nowhere and neither will spankings. You need to explain to your son what you saw and how it's innapropriate. Punishments aren't the answer to everything. Also talk to Kyle's parents/parental figures.
Some things can't be solved with an *** whipping. This is one of those things.
2006-11-09 10:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rhea Luna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that you don't like what he was doing. You might even want to tell Kyles parents what you seen too. Then just make sure you keep an eye on then when they are playing together. If Kyle stays the night make sure they sleep in different rooms. Don't let them play with any door closed where you cant see them.
2006-11-09 10:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think any punishment is needed this first time UNLESS you’ve already told him not to. Talk to him about how wrong that is… when you’re twelve. And Take video games away. Its important to have a nice long talk with him
Good luck and had this trouble- my son was humping the floor!
2006-11-09 10:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Ava ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, he's way way to old to be playing "doctor" like that. thats something 5 year olds do. he should know better.
take away the doctor kit as punishment, and have a good long talk with him about appropriate behavior and explain that much more severe punishment will happen if he does anything like this again.
2006-11-09 10:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by TN girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not spank or punish him, talk to him and tell him it is not propper to play like that.. You should also make the other childs parents aware of this matter..Then maybe both childs parents can talk to the kids together..
2006-11-09 10:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he and his friend are merely exploring their budding sexuality together out of natural curiousity. Many boys and girls remain effectively segregated (at least in friendships) until they are well into their teen years. That being said, they may choose to share their curiousity with a close and trusted friend. I don't believe that it's anything to become overtly concerned about, but if you care to continue to have a close, loving, open relationship with your son, I wouldn't make too big a deal of it.
2006-11-09 10:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by James L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
12 years old is a bit old to be playing doctor. Talk to him and find out why he felt the need to play doctor like that at such an old age. He might need therapy.
2006-11-09 17:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋