Sometimes when I think of you I cry. I cry for the man your were when I fell in love with you. Oh god, how I miss that man! Not for the man who you turned into. The man I met was perfect, he was my everything, I gave that man my heart, and I felt that I had his heart as well. This man you have become is someone who is unhappy inside and I am certain I am not the only thing in your life that was/is making you unhappy. As you were not my only reason for being unhappy. I could go on about alll the things that you have done and said in the last two months but there is no need. You are not the only one to blame here. I do feel our breakup could have been handled in a better way. I know that it was mostly my fault. I made it to my sisters wedding, I held my head high, and I looked fabulous! I never shed one more tear for you on that day. I am proud. I no longer need you to give me my heart back, I took it back myself, and until it heals I will hold it together myself. Thank you for every smile you put on my face and for the opportunity to share in a small part of your life. I hope someday you find happiness and I wish you well!
2006-11-09 01:47:15 · 53 answers · asked by crandle55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aww... I am sorry he hurt you. It is good to get your feelings out on the paper. It's productive, it helps you move on. I used to write emails but I never sent them. Save them as a draft. Read them for your pity party but NEVER ever show him how much he has tore you apart. Use your friends shoulder to cry, call you mother and your sister but don't you dare pick up that phone to call him. People who walk away from you don't deserve to be spoken to. Not by you. Sending that letter or calling him even to tell him that you are going to move on make you loose pride, pride in yourself. Don't hurt yourself anymore. I know you want to talk to him, see him and touch him but you know what time will take care of everything. You will be okay.... I know you will.
Remember to take a walk to the park, stay away from the hair salon and the malls though. ;)
Join a club of some sort, make a few more acquaintances and keep yourself busy. Come home late, find some good reading.
2006-11-09 01:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by pp 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sorry about your breakup and loss. It is hard to go through but you will be a better woman for it and you will have learned from this. Remain hopeful and don't get bitter.
It is always better to give feedback in person. He needs to hear for himself in person what you are saying here.
However, if you can't bear it, I would send it but take back some of the sentences that make you appear weak. Also, he's the one who broke up with you, why are you taking blame ??? Maybe he needs a stronger woman --and that is the reason he left. No one really likes being glorified by another human being and caved into. There is no one who is "perfect."
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"Sometimes when I think of you I cry. I cry for the man your were when I fell in love with you. I miss that man! Not for the man who you turned into. The man I met was my everything. This man you have become is someone who is unhappy inside.
"I am certain I am not what was/is making you unhappy. But If I was, I wish you had been honest about it. I leave knowing we had a really good thing going. That is what I will regret most. At its best times, we gave it our all.
"Missed being together at my sisters wedding, but I want you to know I held my head high, I looked fabulous, and had a great celebration. Many people asked about you.
"I hope someday you find the happiness you are looking for, but I want you to think about the fact that life is never tidy and a perfect mate or relationship doesn't ever really exist. I do believe that the opportunity for a great relationship may have passed you by.
"Thank you for every smile you put on my face and for the opportunity to share your life. I hope someday you find happiness and I wish you well.
2006-11-09 02:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Martina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to care that you made it to your sister's wedding and that you held your head high and looked fabulous. And he is not going to care that you do not need him to give you your heart back. What I would do is put this letter in an envelope and tuck it away. Do not send it. You got your feelings out in writing. What could happen if he reads it that could make any difference for the better? Feeling good about yourself is what counts. And besides, in some states, you have to watch out for stalking laws and what would be classified as stalking.
2006-11-09 01:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by pdiluigi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard this song from Toni Braxton: "LET IT GO"?
No matter how strong you think you are now emotionally,dont put that letter in his mail box,he will read it alright and you may expect some response from him and when he keeps mute,who was the fool? YOU.am a woman,i've been there,let it go,find some distractions,whatever the reason for your breakup was,its over,close that chapter and move on pls.
2006-11-09 02:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by lace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the first time in my life i found someone whos is just like me, in the same situation , having the same problems, any way . let me tell you that you are still loving him and don't ever try to deny it , it's a fact !
BUT you have to step over you heart , go on your life cause the sun will shine tomorrow whether you are together or not, yor are better than him be sure, he now doesn't even cost the money you'll spend untill you reach his mail box !!
2006-11-09 01:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by pepo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the last paragraph only and use it. Don't give him the pleasure of knowing he can still manipulate you.
if you mail him anything start at I know the breakup could have been handeled better. Leave out about it being mostly your fault. After reading thisIi changed my mind, don't send him anything. Walk away and dust off your shoes.
2006-11-09 01:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if it would make you feel better. It is easy for others like me to tell you what to do, but if sending this letter to him will make you feel better and your heart feel lighter then go ahead and give it to him, and then roll on. Don't wallow in self pity...get up, shake it off and smile. The world is waiting for you. It can only get better from here on.
2006-11-09 01:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mail this. Keep this or throw it away. The healing comes in writing it-there is no point in letting him see it. Move on. What's done is done and he isn't going to care about the letter anyway. Be strong and don't send it.
2006-11-09 02:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a beautiful letter and I have written many similar to it...but the fact is that he won't read it--or if he does, he won't care the way you want him to. I agree with those who said it was great for you to write your feelings down but I don't think it's wise to give it to him. Move on and find someone who deserves you! Do something nice for yourself too--you don't need him!
2006-11-09 01:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋