I have a bad habit of trying to heal my hurts by my relationships with men. This makes me end up with some of the worst controlling type men. I end up hating the relationship and wanting out again. I know to truly be happy I must be dependant upon myself but does this mean I should stay unmarried the rest of my entire life?
2006-11-09 01:45:28 · 5 answers · asked by Busy Lady 2010 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I go to counceling. I have been single over ten years. I am tired of living alone. This hurt does not go away!
2006-11-09 02:11:54 · update #1
Thanks for your answers, I havent found found a good answer. I think I need a new councelor too.
2006-11-09 02:13:50 · update #2
I think the problem is that I attract the wrong man by being too dependant and I need to let this one go once again.
2006-11-09 02:15:03 · update #3
I suggest you see a counselor. They can help you understand why you do it and help you find a way to deal with your problems in a positive manner.
I've been there, and it's worth the time and effort to see a counselor.
2006-11-09 01:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you have to change YOU. Get some counseling. You believe that you have self-worth only if you have a boyfriend. And you keep picking the controlling, sick guys. You have to stop. Take a break from relationships. I mean for a year. Do not date, no sex, no nothing. Get your head screwed on right and find out why you feel you have to have a man in your life. Because you really don't. Other people can only enhance our happiness---they cannot BE it.
2006-11-09 09:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. friends are sometimes easier to have then boyfriends. a good friend should be able to help you with emotional support and keep your mind off men. then, someday you will come across the man you were destined to be with and you wont need to heal your hurts because he wont let you get hurt...
2006-11-09 09:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by sugar kiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think as human beings it is healthy and necessary to have people to support us emotionally....for you it seems to always be men you turn to...
since you're not going to lose the need for support, maybe you should somewhere other than men for that support....
do you have good friends whom you can confide in?...if not maybe now is the time to start building a wider support network for yourself...
also, you might try working on your self-esteem to help you feel more self-reliant...try writing down 5 positive qualities in yourself every day for one month...try writing down 5 different things every day...
good luck...you can do it!
2006-11-09 10:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree... You need to take time off away from men. No dating, nothing. That will force you to learn to rely on yourself. And counseling is always helpful.
2006-11-09 09:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Angela1422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋