Im a 20 year old married parent of 2 boys.. a 5 yr old and a 2 month old.. My 5 yr old is from a previous relationship.. The last 3 months my husband has been physically abusive to me.. the last time I had finally had enough and called the police after i tried to leave (got only a house away.. cause i was walking) and he dragged me and my 5 yr old back to our house by our neck.. leaving my 2 month old inside.. The police came and took my report and i got my kids and some belongings and left for a few days.. Now the cops must have told CPS and now they are investigating us.. they had come to our house and spoke to my 5 yr old and myself but my husband was not home.. she said they will be "indicating him" on neglect for leaving my 2 month alone to fight with me.. and she told me to leave anytime he gets like that.. what does it mean to indicate and what will they make him do? why "indicate" him and not me? He feels so guilty afterwards and is a great dad..y is he abusive now?
2006-11-09 01:42:28 · 8 answers · asked by britt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah the other posters are right. it means they got your hubby on their "hitlist" and of you don't do something soon (as in leaving your hubby and getting yourself together) you will join him on the hitlist as well. Cps can court order him to not be within a certain distance if not near the kids at all. They can also put him in jail if they see fit. But honey don't think for one minute that you are in the clear either. Just becuase as of yet they haven't came after you, that don't mean they won't. Especially if they think you stayed with this man and his abuse, and knowingly put your kids in harms way!
I suggest you get out before anything else hits the fan and your kids are taken from you. From experience, I do know that cps will lie and what may seem like a harmless situation now, becasue nobody appears to be accsuing you, that don't mean the situation can't change for the worst. Anytime you deal with cps things can get ugly quick and go from bad to worse within seconds!
I suggest you take the intitaitve, whether your hubby is "sorry" for what he's done or not, and leave until things cool off, or at least show cps you are willing to do whatever it takes to make sure your babies and yourself are safe. I hate to scare you and maybe Im overreacting, but I just see where there is a possibility that cps is honing in on you like a vulture on its prey and they are waititng to zero in on the kill. These folks will lie to you and will not hestitate, so please be careful and proceed with caution.
Once your kids are taken, you will be in for the fight of your life to get them back! And you don't want to risk losing them for something your hubby did!
2006-11-10 21:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nyema 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what this means is that they are within their right to say that he can not be around children under the age of 21 they can also indicate you,for remaining in the home with your children with an abusive man. he will be placed on the child protective watch list. thus meaning if he tries to get a job, that requires a back round check this will come up, meaning he may not get the job. what i don't understand is why would you go back to a man you claim dragged you and your child by the throat across the yard. he may feel bad about it, but that does not mean it wont happen again. believe it or not cps can tell you that he has to move out and have supervised visits with the children and if you don't comply they will come after you.
2006-11-09 17:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the pressure of having a family is probably getting to him. Usually men like this only get worse - not better. For the sake of those precious children, you need to get yourself out of the abusive situation. Your five year old does not deserve to grow up in a household ruled by fear. You must be strong enough to get out. I think you need to read your final sentence again... you used "great Dad" and "abusive" in the same line... Does that add up for you? Be strong and get the help YOU and YOUR KIDS need.
2006-11-09 10:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by wish2bwriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indict means they are charging him.Him not you because he was the abuser and you and the child were the abused. Yeah,sure, he sounds like one hell of a great dad and you a perfect Mom. Your kids are going to grow up loving you for all the abuse they will suffer in their lives, if they live through it. They deserve better.
2006-11-09 12:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them investigate. You don't deserve to be hit or abused, neither do your children. They are the ones you need to protect. you can fight back they can't get the HELL AWAY FROM HIM.AND DON'T RETURN.
THEY DON'T STOP HITTING AFTER THEY START.
I KNOW, I'VE HAD THREE BROKEN NOSES TWO BROKEN FINGERS.AND MY EYE IS MESSED UP FROM SOMEONE HITTING ME SO HARD THAT IT MADE MY EYE BLEED.
PLEASE LEAVE FOR YOUR SAFETY.
2006-11-09 09:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by mother of 7! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all......why are you upholding this slimy worthless piece of ****? He has abused you and your children. Neither of you deserve those children. And as far as CPS......they are probably going to indict him. Indictment is a formal charge of having committed a most serious criminal offence.
2006-11-09 09:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why you are still there, but they are going to arrest him and take him to court and he will be sentenced to what ever.
2006-11-09 09:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2006-11-09 09:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋