LADIES AND MEN......Desperate NEED of HELP!!!!! PLEASE EVERYONE?

Question

Dear Everyone,

I have been in a online LDR for about two months now. just the past couple of weeks, things have been really confusing. It seems as if we both have soo much on our plates. There was a moment, when i really felt like speaking with him, and I kept calling him over and over, till he called back (he mentioned that he is busy and would call back in a few) the few minutes turned out being 13 hrs later. I got really frustrated, coz he always, doesnt have the courtesy to return phone calls on time. I wrote him an email, and said that I am just confused on how things are, and if he is just ignoring me or something, do let me know. He called back hurt, and we made up --- since then, we had plans to meet on a certain day, I had to cancel coz my daughters recital was gonna happen(we both got children). he took that offensive, and i was joking around that when we speak during the odd hours of the night, i sometimes am half asleep, he took that offensive, he is thinking i have became distant, which is not true…we both just need assurance that things will work out and these are just confusions…….PLEASE EVERYONE HELP ME… I wrote him an email explaining how much he means to me. I just feel soo overwhelmed, at the moment, coz of my parents interfering in my life, and the daily stress of seeing them. I sent him a text message one night, that “I miss speaking with him, love him, and worry for him because he is going through a difficult time”. And he returned my call around 3:45am, we spoke, I did question him, that is he wanting to quit speaking, because their was lots of awkwardness, and he got upset, and asked “is this what I am wanting?” I said NO!!. and ever since, we both have been a little distant.
I sent him an email yesterday, explaining how I felt of him, and explained how these couple of weeks been tough on me. Last night, he called me around 3am and we spoke, it was the first time ever, the he mentioned how his past marriage failed, which we both never opened this topic, but he still says that he is not going to call me in the middle of the nights He has been calling me in the middle of the night, but, then apologizes that he has called this late. As I said before it was the first time, he discussed about his past marriage too. He mentioned that he thinks, I am a bit confused, and we should take a step back (meaning, he will only call during 9am-9pm) and no longer later. He doesn’t say “I love you” anymore. I don’t want to lose him, but what is going through his mind? Is this a bad sign??, I don’t understand, that he says that he is not going to call me in the middle of the nights, but still does so….which I want him to continue? But, I don’t want to break things off with him, he is the best thing that has happened to me.

Answer 1

It sounds like he has someone else. Online relationships are crazy and you probably shouldn't let yourself get too worked up over him. Late nite phone calls usually means he's dealing with someone else and is getting to you after the fact. I'd do a re evalutaion if I were you and see if its worth the stress.

Answer 2

Okay...we all know shes a woman first of all, I mean have you seen her ***?! No man could ever have that ***... She's not desperate for attention, her style is just alot different than what people are used to. God forbid someone breaks out of the mainstream pattern of todays music and comes up with something ORIGINAL. Thats why I like her. I know your just stating your opinion, and that's totally fine but state your opinion and thats it. You can ask why people like her and ask for their opinions but don't bash their feelings by saying someone they like is a "creepy transsexual man/woman that is desperate for attention". You're just asking for trouble by saying that.

Answer 3

First off let me say, I'm not into reading long letters. This letter was so long that I basically skimmed thru reading it. It's a on line relationship. Why are you confused????? He has a life that does not contain you or your feelings. Concentrate ( focus) on your self esteem and worth as a female and mother.

Answer 4

My God, are you serious? try meeting in person and getting to know them. A love relationship isn't built on chatting and on-line. YOU CAN'T LOVE A PERSON YOU HAVE NEVER MET. THAT IS NOT ONLY STUPID BUT DANGEROUS. You have no idea what love is, you need professional help.

Answer 5

he is not dependable. he does not respect you enough to call when he says he will. he disrupts your sleep and does not tell you he loves you anymore. What are you getting out of this? It sounds like you are just afraid of being alone.

Answer 6

Sorry, Sleazy doesn't read long boring letters. If you're a female, all you need is a good lay, go out and fornicate.

Answer 7

stress is a biotchhhh